Has anybody done IVF after husband passed away?

jen5nik · Post by **jen5nik** » Sun Oct 15, 2006 9:34 pm

I posted here awhile ago. My husband had testicular cancer and after a 15 month battle he passed away september 17th. I was going through the IVF process. Had already done the hsg mock transfer testing and was on the birth control pill when we found out he had 2 months to live. I knew the IVF cycle would take about 2 months to complete and decided to hold off and spend what time he had with him. Then he passed away 12 days later. Just curious if anyone has done IVF after their husband has died. I am contemplating going through IVF. I would wait a little while before doing it because of all of the stress I am going through.

Thanks,

Jennifer in Arizona:)

Jovigal · Post by **Jovigal** » Sun Oct 15, 2006 10:30 pm

Jennifer - I'm so, so sorry to hear about your husband's passing. I can't imagine what you're going through. I can't relate to your situation but I do hope everything goes well for you, whatever decision that may be.

yogi · Post by **yogi** » Mon Oct 16, 2006 1:02 am

jeniffer i'm so sorry fir you lost and i admier you for being so strong. good luck.

love yogi

hopeful-in-LV · Post by **hopeful-in-LV** » Mon Oct 16, 2006 3:21 am

Jennifer, I think I remember your posts a little while ago. I'm so sorry for your loss. I think it's a beautiful thing that you would consider continuing with your IVF and have a child that is a part of your beloved DH. What ever you decide, I pray you will find peace and hapiness again. Take care. ((hugs))

pinkshellee · Post by **pinkshellee** » Mon Oct 16, 2006 5:59 am

Jennifer-
I am 26 and have been married for almost 10 years. I can't imagine, at my age, losing the love of my life. I am so sorry for your loss. I'm sure that this is a very touchy subject and has been incredibly difficult for you to work out in your head. I have to say (of course, never being through it) I would definitely go through with it, since that was obviously what you both wanted. It would be amazing for me to have a piece of Patrick back with me again, if anything ever happened. Good luck with it all and I pray the decision comes easy for you!

usma3690 · Post by **usma3690** » Mon Oct 16, 2006 9:31 pm

Hi Jennifer,
I was so moved by your story.
My husband and I actually talked a few months ago about what we would do if something like that happened to us. He said "Well, I hope you would go ahead and have the baby". And I would. Each person and situation is different, but thats what I would do. They say you should wait a year after a tragic death to make life changing decisions, so possibly give yourself some time.

All of us on these boards ar so focused on a baby and feel that life will end if we don't get one, but we need to remember that we have a husband and appreciate that relationship as well. This helps put it inot perspective.

Best of Luck. Let us know what you decide.

asante · Post by **asante** » Tue Oct 17, 2006 12:24 am

Hi Jennifer, I am so sorry about your loss. I hope you are doing well.
Regarding to you question depends with the clinic. With my clinic we did sign a concent form regarding that.. I wish you all the best.

Beachgirl · Post by **Beachgirl** » Tue Oct 17, 2006 12:56 am

If you have the support of your friends and family and have the strength, I think it would be a beautiful thing to bring a child into the world even under these unusual circumstances. A part of him would continue to live on.

TansRN · Post by **TansRN** » Wed Oct 18, 2006 3:57 am

Jennifer
I am so sorry to hear about your situation. It is so horrible that you had to go through that with you guys being so young. I would say that if you feel up to it when you are ready I think that you should go for it! It would help if your friends and family can support you through pregnancy and the birth of your precious baby. Best Wishes to you.

I am getting ready to go through with FET in Dec and I am so excited!

GOOD LUCK

bonita23 · Post by **bonita23** » Mon Oct 23, 2006 1:19 pm

I am so sorry for your loss. I think it's great for what you want to do. I have actually thought about it, and I would probably do the same, so I always had a part of mu husband with me. I admire you for your strength. Your story has brought tears to my eyes.

jen5nik · Post by **jen5nik** » Mon Oct 30, 2006 4:38 am

Thank you everyone for your advice and support I really do appreciate it. I go back to work in a few days after being off for a month and a half. I am still trying to get a lot of stuff resolved. I agree I am not going to rush into it. But I think after I work through some of this grief I will fo IVF. I will keep you all posted. Best of luck to anyone going through it right now.

Thanks again,

Jen:)

Has anybody done IVF after husband passed away?

Has anybody done IVF after husband passed away?

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