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chriss wrote:Hi Mia,

about Dh and seeming to not be interested... they just deal with this differently than we do. We (us women) eat, sleep, & drink infertility. They can tune it out once in a while. We think about it 24/7. every time we pee, we are checking for something. Here I am getting all caught up in the daily stats about my follicles... how many on the left ovary? How big did she say? how many on the right? BLAH< BLAH< BLAH and my DH is more like.. we'll see when the time comes kinda attitude. My DH looks at the bigger picture, maybe yours is like that too? Not getting caught up in every detail. Believe me, after every visit with RE, I replay the conversations over and over in my head, dissecting each thing said. Maybe you're not as analytical as me, but maybe you are. :D Maybe DH is just looking at the big picture.
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Yep, My dh is just like that! It took me a while to get used to. But now I amglad b/c I think gosh if we were both as IFcrazed as me it would be a nightmare!! He def. pulls me back inot reality!!

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Mia, mine too. He's like, "We have to carry on with our lives, we can't just hold off on everything because we don't have a baby." I get what he means, but it's just kinda hard to be around lots of old friends & people who do not understand all of this. But yes, I appreciate the way he can take me away from all of this for a while. I know it affects him, but somehow he seems to be stronger than me. He also doesn't have that maternal instinct thingy that we have.
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Yes I blame the maternal drive for my baby craziness.. A few men I know have it, but most don't. Glad I am not the only one w/ a dh w/o that maternal drive!!
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MIa, My DH says that he would like to have kid/s but he wouldn't be as crushed as me if we didn't. I'm like... NO WAY. We are definately going to have kid/s! He says that he would be ok without them, but I'm not sure he's really thinking it through. then I see him with our cats and he is like a father to them. He treats them like his children and I'm not kidding. So I know that it's in there somewhere and when he sees our little baby, it will kick in. I'm a nut for my nephews but my DH doesn't seem so interested in them. Don't get me wrong, he thinks they are cute, but not like me. I'm ga-ga over them. But as far as this whole IVF stuff, my DH is on board 100%. He knows how much this means to me and he will stick by me with it. We are lucky that we have DH's that support this whole thing.
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Hello all!! Sitting here waiting for the new Lost to come on. How is everyone doing tonight?

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Stephjim: A week until test, right!? One more week and the stress and emotions will be worth it!!! Are you still online???

I have a question about bding after ER and before ET. It is ok, right.. I mean it won't hurt anything.. right?? :oops:
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Hey Chriss! No problem, I was hoping I wasn't going to offend you or upset you by bringing that up. I have been thinking about donating eggs, but DH wants us to have our baby first. Ever since I have found out about our infertility I have done been wanting to donate my eggs. I know if no men donated his "stuff" me and my DH would never be parents. I know how important is to kinda "pay it foward!"

I can relate to those stories about DH not being as in to the whole process as us. Sometimes my feelings get hurt cause I feel it doesnt bother Dh as much as it does me. I know I shouldnt let it consume me but it is just so hard. I love to look at all the baby stuff I would want when we have a baby. It just sucks.
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I am online Mia. What is bding?
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Hi everyone -

Super tired again today... what is up!? And need to get to bed soon. Sorry I can't do personals...

Well, i guess to be honest, I'm tired but I'm also just bummed.

Went to LAc today and as much as I've said how I love him... I'm not lovin' him too much right now. I mean, the tmt was fine, he put needles all over me, including 4 localized on my tummy to trigger AF and he gave me some herbal icky poo stuff to drink 2x a day until she shows. But the part that makes me not love him is that we talked about fertility and me...

I was saying that I was frustrated with IF b/c we are doing it b/c of DH's vasectomy, but I don't really know if there is an issue with me or not - though all tests came back normal. And then he proceeds to say, yeah, well, we don't really know, but I do treat a lot of women who have IF problems who have some of the same symptoms as you - poor circulation (also a reason AF might not be showing after D&C) and stagnant qi in the liver (whatever that means). So I say, what can I DO??? to improve on these things???? Well, "be happy" he says... don't get stressed. and eat organic food. Yeah, right, buddy,... you just sit here and tell me that I may very well in fact have IF issues myself and you tell me just to put on a happy face and start doing cartwheels or something??? And never mind the fact that I'm pre-menstrual for, ummm, EIGHT weeks as of tomorrow?!! I kind of wanted to hurt him a little, ok a lot. Not really, but it does make me sad. Which doesn't help my freakin' QI and circulation! Viscious cycle, i guess. UGH!!!

OK, sorry, you guys have to forgive me, you know I'm not usually this way... I guess we all have our venting moments.

I know I have to be positive and not worry about this silliness. He's supposed to make me feel better!! OH, and OBVIOUSLY, AF isn't here yet... and he says (on top of all of that) that if I have to go to the dr next week, I can still take these herbs with the meds they give me at the RE. SO I guess I can't count on AF showing up before then??!!

I'm just tired of the hold pattern. I will stop now... to spare you all, cos I could go on for a while!!

Hope you all are having a good day and the PMAs and follies and embies and everything are growing as they should. Glad to hear the good news... really. :) happy for ya!
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Hope: What a stupid head lacer you have. Be happy. That is what ppl who have never been confronted with IF say to someone, just don't think about don't stress, ugh, so ignorant. Sorry he wasn't any help. Maybe your body is just taking longer healing itself. Maybe it isn't the time. I know it is hard to hear anything when PMSing. SO I will just be angry along with you that AF hasn't shown up!! HUGS!!

Stephjim: Sorry I had to leave the puter cuz god sister got home, and then I remembered a mess in the kitchen.. Ok bding is baby dancing.. sex..!
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I'm back from hell...it is totally late, but only cuz I have been doing other stuff before checking out here. Have I mentioned today how much I hate it???

Hope I'm sorry the needle sticker wasn't all that helpful emotionally especially!! You asked about that liver qi thing...that link you had sent on here a few days back...that had info in there on the liver (and spleen) qi I believe that is what that was all about. Now I forget which was which, but check it out again and PUUUUSSSSSHHHHHH!

Ok I can't even think straight right now I'm sleepy..Mia, Miracle, Angel, Chriss, Steph and Su...hi. I'm pooped...that's all I can muster at the moment. Sorry

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Hope - hugs to you. Don't worry about venting. This is the right place to do it. My RE said to me 2 days back that it is normal for a delay after a failed IVF cycle and that its the body's way of adjusting. He won't do anything to make AF start. Easier said than done, but try not to think about his words too much. We all face the same thing in a way. Tests only show so much, and often even the doctors don't know the reason as to why certain things happen.

Mia - how was bd :wink: Hey one more day to go before you have your lil' ones on board. Have you decided how many to transfer? Is your dad coming down this weekend?

Steph - Helllllooooo. Just prepare a countdown to the start of the new job. Might help for you to tick off days when you get home. How are you doing anyway? You will have your trigger shot soon, won't you?

Becky, feel any better? Are you in at work today or off sick? The weekend's here so you can rest it out, hey?

Chris - Men just deal with things differently. DH once told me that just because he does not cry or think about it all day like I do doesn't mean he feels less than me. You're right though, we analyse everything and need to talk about the smallest of things - which explains why we are all addicted to this forum. I can't think of anyone else around me that I can talk to about small things like brown discharge or spotting. Unless someone has been through this process themself, its difficult for them to understand the rollecoaster. Like when we went to see someone with a baby and she went on about how it worth it and we should start planning a family, it affected me for a week at least. DH on the other hand, could talk to them normally and express genuine joy for them. On the way home, he did tell me that he wants that to happen for us too. Then when we reached home, he opened a can of beer and started watching footie :? They have the ability to switch off. Mia is right though, its better this way, otherwise we'd be a couple of sad depressed people. Their need to want to continue normal activities probably keeps us sane. All this rambling......better stop now.

As for paying, we're paying for tmt as well. We only get one chance paid for by the govt but waiting lists are so long. We still have a year to go and didn't want to wait till then.

Miracle - I kind of felt the same way as you about donating my eggs. But DH feels the same way about us getting through this first. We have decided that at any point, if - no when, we get our BFP and if we have any frosties, we will donate those.

Jend - you better be resting up and letting DH take care of you.

I've coughed so much the past 10 days now that my insides hurt so much (i've definitely twisted a few things inside, hopefully not my ovaries!). Beginning to feel a bit better now. My course of antibiotics finishes today. For some reason, I felt a calm over me since yesterday. I'm no longer fretting over AF. I thought about what the RE said and decided that I'll let my body decide when its ready. Its probably better that it didn't show up sooner as I've been so poorly anyway. As for work, well.........I'll just have to deal with things one at a time. I'll sign off on this positive note ....if you're still reading at this point, hugs to you.
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Hi gang

Angel - Promise the feet are up and i only escape the couch when i want to go on the pc but after 2 days i am already feeling restless and guilty for doing nothing----if it helps my embies then the couch it will be :roll:

Steph - I am so jealous you watched Lost. I was addicted to it then they took it of the tv here so i never got to see what happened. Anyway dh is finally going to get the box set or download it from the pc and i will be a happy girl :lol: Hope your not to stressed out, not long now.

Am fine today, feeling nothing and not looking into anything as i have been there before and it got me zilch. Actually i feel so normal that i think its already over :?: :?:

Got a bit of disappointment just now. Remember the hospital here in the uk have offered us a free cycle, the only problem is i need eggs, so they advertised for us but i just got an email saying only 2 people enquired about donating eggs------i am gutted. If this cycle doesnt work then the free cycle is our last chance and if we cant get eggs then we wont even be able to do the cycle. The hospital said they will wait another week then put the add in the paper again but i feel so scared this might be our last cycle now :cry:

There is some positive news, we have been appointed a social worker (s/w) to deal with adopting and she is visiting on the 5th, so at least thats moving forward--------------but i want to have my own baby.

Oh god this is so hard, what did we all do to deserve this crap :?:

Will pop in later when i find my smile and sense of humour :roll:

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mornin ladies-
Jen rest up...feeling normal right now is FINE! Not negative, just fine!!! Keep up te PMA lady!!!

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and yes hell is pissing me off...sorry I don't have a DH so SOMETHING must, right??? This whole contract thing may have me screwed for awhile...but I'm doing what I can. I just want out so bad but good old corporate BS probably has me under their thumb! I've called 5 billion numbers with my company for some answers and NO ONE has an answer for me. You know the minute I tell em to shove it they will come knocking down my door with an answer!!! Image

Angel no my trigger is at least a week away...I'm guessing. I'm still on clomid now and have my 1st US on Monday.

Damn gotta make more phone calls!!! PIMA!

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Hey all!! Getting ready to go meet my DH for lunch at 11:30 eastern time. Got up about an hour ago and got a shower. 6 more days and counting. PMA PMA not PMS!!!!!!

Steph, where did you get that Warning sign. I want one.

Jen, stay positive. This one will work. You won't have to worry about others, OK?

Hope, I am so sorry you are still waiting. I always found that if I go to the gym, it seems to make me start, right in the middle of my workout. Has your doc thought about putting you on meds to make you start?

Chriss how are thing going with the eggies. Any new news?

I have a question. Did any of your DH's flip out when you brought up the possibility of adoption or donor sperm? I am always a planner and I just brought up these things because it costs just as much to adopt as it does to do all of this. He flipped out. Anyone else?

Hello to everyone else. Angie, I hope you are doing better and we are here when you are ready to talk.

Su, Shantala and Nims, how are you feeling?
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