Oh Sophie, I am so, so sorry. I cannot imagine the pain you must be feeling at the moment but can sense a touch of relief that the limbo is over. I'm just so terribly sad that it has ended this way for you.
As you have said there are positives and your body now knows that it can do it, I'm sure you will have many more BFP's after this.
My thoughts are with you and your DH over the next few days.
Much love, Em
November 2008 mommies, come join the fun!!!
Sophie I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I know things must be hard on you right now and I can only imagine how you are feeling. Regardless, you are and will be in my prayers until we get another BFP. Please keep your head up and check in on us periodically.
Con mucho amor.
Con mucho amor.
-Jenn Potter
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Me-27; PCOS, "diseased" tubes. DH-34, perfect
1st IVF-2/08: BFP
1st Beta-3/05/08: 594
2nd Beta-3/07/08: 1188
3rd Beta- 3/10/08: 2868
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Me-27; PCOS, "diseased" tubes. DH-34, perfect
1st IVF-2/08: BFP
1st Beta-3/05/08: 594
2nd Beta-3/07/08: 1188
3rd Beta- 3/10/08: 2868
Dear Sophie
I'm so sorry to hear your news and my thoughts are with you and dh.
You are right, this shows that you can get pregnant, but I know its difficult to see the positive at the moment. I have been where you are now so if you have any questions or need any advice, please ask. What I can tell you is that it gets easier to bear with time and you are a brave lady who will have your dream
Thinking of you
Lola
x
I'm so sorry to hear your news and my thoughts are with you and dh.
You are right, this shows that you can get pregnant, but I know its difficult to see the positive at the moment. I have been where you are now so if you have any questions or need any advice, please ask. What I can tell you is that it gets easier to bear with time and you are a brave lady who will have your dream
Thinking of you
Lola
x
me 39 dh 41
2 ivf, 3 fets - 2 bfn, 3 bfp (1 ectopic, 2 m/c @ 9wks and 12 wks)
3rd fresh ivf - bfp, fingers crossed
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2 ivf, 3 fets - 2 bfn, 3 bfp (1 ectopic, 2 m/c @ 9wks and 12 wks)
3rd fresh ivf - bfp, fingers crossed
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Dear Sophie,
I was so sad to read your news. I had a m/c a few years back and I think the hardest part was having to tell my family. I spent a whole day in bed crying, but as time went by it got easier and easier. I'm glad you are keeping such a positive attitude. It's really impressive. I wish you lots of luck and hope to see you with another bfp real soon.
Take care of yourself.
xoxo
Kathleen
I was so sad to read your news. I had a m/c a few years back and I think the hardest part was having to tell my family. I spent a whole day in bed crying, but as time went by it got easier and easier. I'm glad you are keeping such a positive attitude. It's really impressive. I wish you lots of luck and hope to see you with another bfp real soon.
Take care of yourself.
xoxo
Kathleen
Me 34, DH 46
Me PCOS / hypothyroid
TTC 4 years
1st IVF AUG 2007
2nd frozen Nov 07 BFN
2nd fresh Feb 08 BFP!!!
Me PCOS / hypothyroid
TTC 4 years
1st IVF AUG 2007
2nd frozen Nov 07 BFN
2nd fresh Feb 08 BFP!!!
Sophie,
I just wanted to echo what the others have been saying. I'm very sorry to hear about yuor loss---I don't know exactly what to say, but know that you are deeply in all of our thoughts.
Your hopefulness is beyond inspiring. We all are learning a lot from you.
Please let us know if there's anything any of us can do. We're always here to listen and support you.
Take Care,
Kris
I just wanted to echo what the others have been saying. I'm very sorry to hear about yuor loss---I don't know exactly what to say, but know that you are deeply in all of our thoughts.
Your hopefulness is beyond inspiring. We all are learning a lot from you.
Please let us know if there's anything any of us can do. We're always here to listen and support you.
Take Care,
Kris
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Dearest ladies,
I meant to write sooner, but the internet was down at work yesterday!!!
I really must say that I am overwhelmed by how much support you guys have given me these last 48 hours especially. To all of you, I want to say, "Don't worry", really, because I am fine. I think I did most of the crying and the emotional roller coaster ride while I was in the hospital, and then again when we found a slow heartbeat. It's not like I didn't have time to prepare for a miscarriage. Like I said, it is a relief now that things are clear. I can really move on and look toward the future, which is great. I have amazing things lying ahead for me, and plenty to keep me busy and happy. I cried what I had to cry, and now it's time to move on to something else.
Riogirl: thank you for your post. I know sassy from previous attempts. She is an amazingly brave lady who went through a lot and NEVER abandoned her fight against infertility. I am absolutely thrilled that she'll probably get even more than what she asked for (quintuplets, oh MY!), and I trust you will take good care of her; she is a special lady. For the record, this pregnancy was an FET.
Ana: thank you for your kind words. I'll make sure I drop by occasionally to check on you girls! And I'll let you know about our next attempt for sure.
Joanie: thanks for your baby dust sweetie! I'll need it!
Emma: thank you for your post. You've felt right: there is a huge sense of relief. It's always easier to cope when you know exactly what you have to cope with! Thank you for your wishes, though LOL, I won't tell DH about too many BFPs! (he wants us to stop after two, and I don't mind).
mzpotter: hola guapita! Thank you for your kind words, but really don't worry about me. My life is back to normal now, and I'm feeling much better. It's always been like that with the BFNs, and this time is no different. I don't cry over spilled milk, I just move on. But you can be sure I'll come often to check how everybody is doing!
Lola: thank you for your offer dear, I'll remember it. I really don't know how I'll feel when we attempt FET again. I'll probably hvae mixed emotions. I'll know that each pregnancy is different, and quite frankly, I don't think I'll be too scared of having a miscarriage again, as I know this time it wasn't my fault. I'll sure be scared of ending into the ER again in horrible pain because of my tubes, though, but I guess we'll talk about that witht he doctor. Don't worry, I still believe in our dream, now even more than before now that I know I can get pregnant.
Kathleen: thanks for your post dear. I hear you: telling my grandma was the worst of it... she just said "Oh, no!!!" in a broken voice and started crying... and I just wasn't in the mood for crying, let alone picking her up when I was the one having the miscarriage after all... pretty selfish, huh? It just hurt me so much to hurt her with the news. But fortunately, we talked and she was okay at the end of the call. After an experience like that, however, they have all been warned that we'll wait until I'm 12 weeks pregnant before we tell anybody. I wanted to aim for a strong heartbeat, but DH preferred 12 weeks. Fortunately, they all understand that. We'll see.
Kris: thank you so much for your kind words! But really, my reaction has much to do with the fact that I did my crying in the hospital and a little bit after. That part was the worst of the storm. Thank you for your support dear.
Renee: don't worry dear, I'll let you know! Thank you so much for your thoughts!
Okay lovely ladies, time to go now! But as I said, I'll check on you regularly. Take care, all of you, and I wish you uneventful pregnancies and lovely bellies with lots of kicks inside!
With much love,
Sophie xxox
I meant to write sooner, but the internet was down at work yesterday!!!
I really must say that I am overwhelmed by how much support you guys have given me these last 48 hours especially. To all of you, I want to say, "Don't worry", really, because I am fine. I think I did most of the crying and the emotional roller coaster ride while I was in the hospital, and then again when we found a slow heartbeat. It's not like I didn't have time to prepare for a miscarriage. Like I said, it is a relief now that things are clear. I can really move on and look toward the future, which is great. I have amazing things lying ahead for me, and plenty to keep me busy and happy. I cried what I had to cry, and now it's time to move on to something else.
Riogirl: thank you for your post. I know sassy from previous attempts. She is an amazingly brave lady who went through a lot and NEVER abandoned her fight against infertility. I am absolutely thrilled that she'll probably get even more than what she asked for (quintuplets, oh MY!), and I trust you will take good care of her; she is a special lady. For the record, this pregnancy was an FET.
Ana: thank you for your kind words. I'll make sure I drop by occasionally to check on you girls! And I'll let you know about our next attempt for sure.
Joanie: thanks for your baby dust sweetie! I'll need it!
Emma: thank you for your post. You've felt right: there is a huge sense of relief. It's always easier to cope when you know exactly what you have to cope with!
Thank you for your wishes, though LOL, I won't tell DH about too many BFPs! (he wants us to stop after two, and I don't mind).mzpotter: hola guapita!
Thank you for your kind words, but really don't worry about me. My life is back to normal now, and I'm feeling much better. It's always been like that with the BFNs, and this time is no different. I don't cry over spilled milk, I just move on. But you can be sure I'll come often to check how everybody is doing! Lola: thank you for your offer dear, I'll remember it. I really don't know how I'll feel when we attempt FET again. I'll probably hvae mixed emotions. I'll know that each pregnancy is different, and quite frankly, I don't think I'll be too scared of having a miscarriage again, as I know this time it wasn't my fault. I'll sure be scared of ending into the ER again in horrible pain because of my tubes, though, but I guess we'll talk about that witht he doctor. Don't worry, I still believe in our dream, now even more than before now that I know I can get pregnant.
Kathleen: thanks for your post dear. I hear you: telling my grandma was the worst of it... she just said "Oh, no!!!" in a broken voice and started crying... and I just wasn't in the mood for crying, let alone picking her up when I was the one having the miscarriage after all... pretty selfish, huh? It just hurt me so much to hurt her with the news. But fortunately, we talked and she was okay at the end of the call. After an experience like that, however, they have all been warned that we'll wait until I'm 12 weeks pregnant before we tell anybody. I wanted to aim for a strong heartbeat, but DH preferred 12 weeks. Fortunately, they all understand that. We'll see.
Kris: thank you so much for your kind words! But really, my reaction has much to do with the fact that I did my crying in the hospital and a little bit after. That part was the worst of the storm. Thank you for your support dear.
Renee: don't worry dear, I'll let you know! Thank you so much for your thoughts!
Okay lovely ladies, time to go now! But as I said, I'll check on you regularly. Take care, all of you, and I wish you uneventful pregnancies and lovely bellies with lots of kicks inside!
With much love,
Sophie xxox
1st and 2nd IVF = BFN 1st FET BFP! m/c at 7 weeks. 2nd FET BFP! 3rd FET BFN
Now let's spend the rest of our lives having fun together!
Now let's spend the rest of our lives having fun together!
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Hello everyone. My name is Lynn and I've been lurking here for a few months, unable to sign up for the forum from work. I've finally sat down at the home computer and created an account.
Anyway, I just wanted to say thank you to each and every one of you for your advice and candidness on the forum. It's so nice to know that I'm not the only one going through this. So many of my friends have 2 or more childern (all conceived naturally) and they just don't "get it", despite their best intentions to help me with the situation.
To Sophie - I am really sorry to hear about your loss. I have been reading your posts and they've brought tears to my eyes. You are truly a trouper and I wish you the best as you continue with life's journey. Hang in there.
A little of my history -- I've had two miscarriages since we started TTC in September 2004. Recently, I conceived via my first round of IVF, confirmed on 3/6 at 13 days post 3dt. So, I believe that makes me due around November 11 (God willing!!!)
I'll write more later -- I just wanted to finally take the opportunity to finally say HI!!
Anyway, I just wanted to say thank you to each and every one of you for your advice and candidness on the forum. It's so nice to know that I'm not the only one going through this. So many of my friends have 2 or more childern (all conceived naturally) and they just don't "get it", despite their best intentions to help me with the situation.
To Sophie - I am really sorry to hear about your loss. I have been reading your posts and they've brought tears to my eyes. You are truly a trouper and I wish you the best as you continue with life's journey. Hang in there.
A little of my history -- I've had two miscarriages since we started TTC in September 2004. Recently, I conceived via my first round of IVF, confirmed on 3/6 at 13 days post 3dt. So, I believe that makes me due around November 11 (God willing!!!)
I'll write more later -- I just wanted to finally take the opportunity to finally say HI!!
Hi girls,
Sorry I have been MIA for the past few days. Unfortunately my Dad had a heart attack last thursday and we just packed the boys up and drove down there. My parents live 3 hours south of Brisbane in another state. My Mum was looking after my boys up here when she heard and she was so strong that she waited till I got home from work to tell me. We managed to see him at midnight that night and he looked so scared.
Because Lismore (my parent's city) is only small, they don't have the facilities to do angioplasty there and so he was flown to Sydney on friday and we are waiting for him to have his angio tomorrow morning and see what the damage is and therefore treatment will be.
It has been a very scary time for us as my Dad is only 56 and quit smoking last August...I guess the damage was already done. He is stable at the moment but terrified about tomorrow.
I have been having cramps and I'm not sure if its just a stress reaction to it all. I have had a (very transparent) pinkish dishcarge and keep expecting to see blood. It has just been such a crappy month for my famly with the boys illness and now Dad.
It feels as if it never ends.
Em
Sorry I have been MIA for the past few days. Unfortunately my Dad had a heart attack last thursday and we just packed the boys up and drove down there. My parents live 3 hours south of Brisbane in another state. My Mum was looking after my boys up here when she heard and she was so strong that she waited till I got home from work to tell me. We managed to see him at midnight that night and he looked so scared.
Because Lismore (my parent's city) is only small, they don't have the facilities to do angioplasty there and so he was flown to Sydney on friday and we are waiting for him to have his angio tomorrow morning and see what the damage is and therefore treatment will be.
It has been a very scary time for us as my Dad is only 56 and quit smoking last August...I guess the damage was already done. He is stable at the moment but terrified about tomorrow.
I have been having cramps and I'm not sure if its just a stress reaction to it all. I have had a (very transparent) pinkish dishcarge and keep expecting to see blood. It has just been such a crappy month for my famly with the boys illness and now Dad.
It feels as if it never ends.
Em
TTC 5yrs - Unexplained Infertility
3xIUI's (April, June & Aug 06) - BFN,s
1st IVF - Oct 06 - Jasper & Finlay born 07/06/07
Natural preg - Addison Grace born 15/10/08
3xIUI's (April, June & Aug 06) - BFN,s
1st IVF - Oct 06 - Jasper & Finlay born 07/06/07
Natural preg - Addison Grace born 15/10/08
Hi pregnant ladies!
Em - I can't believe what a stressful time you're having at the moment. I hope your dad's angio went well and they could plasty any blockage. I wish him a perfect uneventful recovery. And you need a rest! Sure your cramps are just growing pains - try not to worry.
Sophie - thank you for your message, your attitude is fantastic, positive and practical. Good luck with your fet, next time will be the winner for you. Or maybe winners... Take care x
How is everyone else? Its been quiet here lately, its hard hearing about our friends who so deserved to have an easy uneventful wonderful pregnancy have the awful news we all dread. They have both been so strong and inspirational really. Good luck Sophie and Kerpupples.
So come on November mums to be! Any news? Scan results, symptoms, fattening waists??
I hope you're all well and happy
Take care
Lola
xxxxxx
Em - I can't believe what a stressful time you're having at the moment. I hope your dad's angio went well and they could plasty any blockage. I wish him a perfect uneventful recovery. And you need a rest! Sure your cramps are just growing pains - try not to worry.
Sophie - thank you for your message, your attitude is fantastic, positive and practical. Good luck with your fet, next time will be the winner for you. Or maybe winners... Take care x
How is everyone else? Its been quiet here lately, its hard hearing about our friends who so deserved to have an easy uneventful wonderful pregnancy have the awful news we all dread. They have both been so strong and inspirational really. Good luck Sophie and Kerpupples.
So come on November mums to be! Any news? Scan results, symptoms, fattening waists??
I hope you're all well and happy
Take care
Lola
xxxxxx
me 39 dh 41
2 ivf, 3 fets - 2 bfn, 3 bfp (1 ectopic, 2 m/c @ 9wks and 12 wks)
3rd fresh ivf - bfp, fingers crossed
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2 ivf, 3 fets - 2 bfn, 3 bfp (1 ectopic, 2 m/c @ 9wks and 12 wks)
3rd fresh ivf - bfp, fingers crossed
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Hi Ladies. How is everyone feeling?
Welcome Lynn. I noticed your due date is the day after mine. How have you been feeling? Is this your first IVF cycle? Did you have any scans yet?
Hi Emma, Sorry to hear you've been going through such a hard time. How did everything go with your father today? How are your sons doing?
Hi Lola, How have you been feeling? When is your due date? Do you have any scans coming up?
I am going for my last scan with my RE this week on 4/2. It will be my eight week appt. and then I will graduate to a regular obgyn. Yippee!!! Last night was my last PIO shot. It seems weird not doing it tonight. I have to admit a lot of my pants are getting snug in the waste. It seems way too soon for this to be happening. I find that I am always hungry. Still very tired too. Never stay up past 8:30.
Take care ladies.
Kathleen
Welcome Lynn. I noticed your due date is the day after mine. How have you been feeling? Is this your first IVF cycle? Did you have any scans yet?
Hi Emma, Sorry to hear you've been going through such a hard time. How did everything go with your father today? How are your sons doing?
Hi Lola, How have you been feeling? When is your due date? Do you have any scans coming up?
I am going for my last scan with my RE this week on 4/2. It will be my eight week appt. and then I will graduate to a regular obgyn. Yippee!!! Last night was my last PIO shot. It seems weird not doing it tonight. I have to admit a lot of my pants are getting snug in the waste. It seems way too soon for this to be happening. I find that I am always hungry. Still very tired too. Never stay up past 8:30.
Take care ladies.
Kathleen
Me 34, DH 46
Me PCOS / hypothyroid
TTC 4 years
1st IVF AUG 2007
2nd frozen Nov 07 BFN
2nd fresh Feb 08 BFP!!!
Me PCOS / hypothyroid
TTC 4 years
1st IVF AUG 2007
2nd frozen Nov 07 BFN
2nd fresh Feb 08 BFP!!!
Anyone been having wierd food cravings? Mine has been sour cream, which is really wierd for me because I could take it or leave it before I was pregnant.
Yesterday I had a dream where I was eating a Klondike bar and potato chips. What an odd combination.
When I woke up I had an overwhelming urge to eat some Cheddar and Sour Cream potato chips dipped in sour cream...so I did. They were great!
Not the most healthy cravings in the world. It's kinda fun to be having them though. Especially after all we've all gone through to get this far.
Any pickles and ice cream cravings out there?
Kristy
Yesterday I had a dream where I was eating a Klondike bar and potato chips. What an odd combination.
When I woke up I had an overwhelming urge to eat some Cheddar and Sour Cream potato chips dipped in sour cream...so I did. They were great!
Not the most healthy cravings in the world. It's kinda fun to be having them though. Especially after all we've all gone through to get this far.
Any pickles and ice cream cravings out there?
Kristy
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pincushion
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cravings and waistline
hi all,
just popping in to let you know i have started to feel much better, so i hope it lasts, my morning sickness is nearly gone, and i only feel a bit of seas sickness at times during the day.. still very tired, my sore breasts have eased but have some headaches..
cravings i have had a few lately, toffee apples.. weird hey?
my stomach is what i though bloated, but realise that my waistlin is in fact starting its increase, which i cant wait for so that i can actually see proof of what is going on in there... we had our scan last week as i told you, and baby looks even bigger than thought. Just cant wait to get past 12 weeks so i can start feeling even more relief.
First ob visit is on 23rd April and we are having neuro translucensey scan in a couple of weeks... cant wait to see again on the scan to see if all is well
HOw has everyone else been feeling????
just popping in to let you know i have started to feel much better, so i hope it lasts, my morning sickness is nearly gone, and i only feel a bit of seas sickness at times during the day.. still very tired, my sore breasts have eased but have some headaches..
cravings i have had a few lately, toffee apples.. weird hey?
my stomach is what i though bloated, but realise that my waistlin is in fact starting its increase, which i cant wait for so that i can actually see proof of what is going on in there... we had our scan last week as i told you, and baby looks even bigger than thought. Just cant wait to get past 12 weeks so i can start feeling even more relief.
First ob visit is on 23rd April and we are having neuro translucensey scan in a couple of weeks... cant wait to see again on the scan to see if all is well
HOw has everyone else been feeling????
Hi there- New to this side 
Hoping to tag along with you girls. Had my ultrasound yesterday...9w, 3d. Looks good...baby put his hand like things in his mouth and waved the little fins around...
Tired? HELL YES! Never stay up past 8:30 either Kathleen. Love the Klondike & ice cream idea-- sweet & salty...doodah66. I am trying to eat healthy, but i let myself have something sweet EVERY DAY. Why deny?
Anyway, thanks for letting me join. Talk to you all soon.
Hoping to tag along with you girls. Had my ultrasound yesterday...9w, 3d. Looks good...baby put his hand like things in his mouth and waved the little fins around...
Tired? HELL YES! Never stay up past 8:30 either Kathleen. Love the Klondike & ice cream idea-- sweet & salty...doodah66. I am trying to eat healthy, but i let myself have something sweet EVERY DAY. Why deny?
Anyway, thanks for letting me join. Talk to you all soon.
me- 39
DH-53
#1 IVF- BFN
#2 IVF- Positive!
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DH-53
#1 IVF- BFN
#2 IVF- Positive!
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iriecricket
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Hello Kathleen and thanks for the welcome! This was our first round of IVF and we will go for our fourth U/S tomorrow morning. It's so exciting to watch the embryo (I guess it's a fetus now) grow. I had a scare at about 6 weeks -- major cramping and spotting. After two miscarriages, I was really scared but the doctor saw me the morning after the problems started and said everything looked good. Apparently, I have a fibroid that had grown just a little and the DR thought that might be what was causing the cramping and spotting. I haven't had any problems in two weeks now and am just keeping my fingers crossed and saying lots of prayers.
I am still doing the progesterone injections but can't wait for them to end. My hormone levels weren't high enough at last week's blood test so hopefully tomorrow will bring better news. I am finding that the injections are getting harder and harder to do. I have to self-administer due to my DH's work schedule and complete phobia of needles.
I hope everyone is having a great week and feeling well!
Take care!
I am still doing the progesterone injections but can't wait for them to end. My hormone levels weren't high enough at last week's blood test so hopefully tomorrow will bring better news. I am finding that the injections are getting harder and harder to do. I have to self-administer due to my DH's work schedule and complete phobia of needles.
I hope everyone is having a great week and feeling well!
Take care!
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