Awaiting Treatment

[pequele]

THings are going smoothly with new RE. All bloodwork is in, papers are signed, yadda, yadda.

I'll check in later. Love yas all!!!! -chriss

woohoooooooo so now when does it all start? I'm so lost!

[shantala]

hi ladies

sorry, ive been MIA. thanks nimble and welshbugger for letting everyone know and thank you all so much for your congrats. we're over the moon....all, keep going, its so worth it!!!!

will catch up another time

xxxxxx

[Welshgirl38]

Hiya Ladies,

How are u all today, its the week enddddddddddddd - yippie dooooo!

Shantala: Lovely to see u hun, hows the wee one .... got u a card but lost ur email with ur address on lol - send me another when u have a chance xxx

I see everyone's pregnancies are doing well - the scanned pics are beautiful - only wish i had one to share with u too (as many of us do) without offending anyone on here, and please dont take this the wrong way - but the way im feeling today, i could have broke down logging on to see those ....

Everyone seems to be pregnant and its just not fair I come here for a good ole moan about it and get to see everyone elses pregnancies progressing (which by the way, i am happy for u all - please dont take it the wrong way ok) i just feel that this thread has moved on, there are not many of us left who aint pregnant, and i dont think i can face logging on hearing about nausea and baby bellies and bad tits and the rest of it no more .... am i the only one that feels like this?

Think i will make up a new thread - or find another site, please dont take offence - but i need to be around women who are going thru what i am at the moment, but all the talk here is about babies - which i understand ur all excited about finally getting ur BFP's, but its also hard to watch u all move on while i feel left behind. Most of u have been thru what im going thru right now so i hope u can understand ....

Becky xxx

[chriss]

Becky, I do know how you feel. I've been at this for a long time and I've seen so many people come and go. I would have PM'ed you, but I think it is okay to let everyone know how we feel sometimes. It is so hard to watch everyone zoom on past us. And we just keep chugging away. We will get our day.

Please do not take offense girls. You know I love you.

-chriss

[wishfull27]

Becky and Chris - I am with you too - yes I am pleased for the BFP's and mummies now with babies - its just hard for the rest of us - guess thats why don't post so much any more - where do we go from here?

Love to all - hjope you understand what we mean

Carolyn xxx

[stephjim]

I am sorry you feel like you can't come in here anymore. I can certainly understand, though. Please know that we are here for you no matter what happens and we want to be with you as you all get pregnant on this next go around.

[Welshgirl38]

Its not that we want to leave Steph - its just there is so much talk about babies etc - its really hard and surley u understand what us ladies are going thru.

Without sounding mean and horrible and insensitive (cos we dont mean to be) there are sites where u can post ur pics of ur scans, like photobucket - everyone else posts theirs there - i dont think its fair on us ladies who ar still trying to get there. U know what it was like when u saw a pregnant woman walking down the street when u were still trying to 'get there' and thats what this feels like.

I have been using this site for over 2 years now, and i have never felt like this - i have supported everyone thru their BFP's and their BFN's - i have stuck by them thru out every single thing they have been thru - and i still want to do that. I dont want to have to leave because my friends have got pregnant, i just want my friends to try and understand that because they are pregnant and we are not (and some of us may never be) then we need a bit of respect and not have it chucked in our faces.

I love u all to bits ladies, and i am extatic that u've got there and are pregnant - so please dont take this the wrong way - i dont want that to happen - i want to watch ur progress - in my own way, and not have it thrown in my face every time i log on for some support ...

Im sorry its come to this, but im not the only one who feels like this .... i love u all ladies, please try to understand what we are going thru

Xxxx

[squeezan]

Becky, I'm so sorry that we've upset you. I do understand how you feel and haven't posted as much lately as I have felt bad about it. Its easy to get carried away and forget what the rest of you are going through - I'm glad you decided to speak up and remind us.
You mustn't leave, afterall you are the founder of this thread and none of us would have had the support we needed if it wasn't for you. If anything I think those of us who've got their BFP should move, maybe to a new thread - AT graduates? what do you think ladies? That way we can still keep up with everyone who's ttc and offer support where appropriate but keep the pregnancy discussion elsewhere. You could check in on us if and when you want to and move across when you get your BFP.
I've tried other threads but none can compare to the fun and support on this one so maybe this is the answer.
As you said before this is no longer an 'awaiting treatment' thread, I think it has been hijacked and that's not fair.
Please stick with the thread as I'm sure your words will have hit home and things will change from now on.

Su x

[Angel505]

Hello ladies,

I am with Becky, Chriss and Carolyn on this one. I wouldn't have been able to express myself any better than Becky just did.

We are really happy that some of you have been lucky to get your BFPs, and we have been with each other while going through treatment and upto the point of getting the result. But if you remember, a while back on this same thread we all used to talk about how hurtful it felt when other pregnant women would go on about their pregnancies. However, in your cases, you have all been there so you will understand how it feels to be in our place. We would still like to hear about your progress and all that, but pregnancy talk on the awiting treatment thread is sometimes a bit much to handle. Like for example, I was away on a training course one of the days and ended up sitting on a table where all of the girls were either pregnant or had children and all I heard was baby talk. Then when I signed on here that evening, all I saw was pregnancy talk and that really hit me bad. I just couldn't cope.

I joined this forum a year back and straightaway joined this thread which was relatively new. And I really don't want to go anywhere else cause I have made some amazing friends. The thread was my refuge from the reality - it was a place I could come to as there were people who understood what I was going through.


Su, I'm so glad that you understand what Becky meant. No one has to go anywhere. Like you suggested, if you could maybe post your baby talk somewhere else like the pregnant after treatment section. You could all still come on here and give us your updates after your appointments, etc. We have all become like family and it would be a shame if any of us went away from this forum completely. We would still like to know how you're doing. Just because you had to go through the tough route doesn't mean that you should not complain about your pregnancy. On the other hand, Remember that we still have our down moments and sometimes with all the happy news here we feel guilty about bringing down the mood with our feelings.

Please don't get us wrong. We are pleased for you preggers women and hope that you all have healthy and happy babies. Like we are absolutely chuffed for Rach and Shantala, we can't wait for you all to deliver your babies. However, please do bear in mind that due to various reasons, some of us have to still wait for treatment. This used to be a fun thread where we could rant and rave and muck about to get a bit of light relief from the whole IVF subject.

Sorry - I can't express myself as well as Becky had. I do hope that no one feels offended and understands our view point.

[chriss]

Wow,
I am glad that we are getting this out in the open. I really feel like I want to stay here too. I don't want to be booted off because I did not get my BFP yet. I value ALL of you. (But I too have not been posting as much because of how painful it can be sometimes... it's like being left behind... and I know it's not intentional, but it still hurts. Like not being able to be in a club that you've been trying to be a part of for a very long time.)

We can't break up completely girls...

I love this thread. I think Angel, Becky and Carolyn made some really great points. I think the suggestions are good ones.

So what do you preggo ladies think about all this? (Cause you know we love you)

-chriss

[waitingforMia]

Hey girlies

I am with you girls. I am not offended at all by anything you said - I hope no one is. Thanks for being so honest Becky to open up this topic that apparently many were thinking about already - took some guts.

I try to post pg stuff on my Oct pg board, with just a few highlights here on this board. I just want to apologize if I was ever insensitive here about my pg. We have all been there and should continue to make sure those Awaiting treatment and going through treatment don't have to worry about what they will read on here because no matter how many of us get pg - this is still an awaiting threatment thread.

Thought from others??

MP

[waitingforMia]

Hey girls I added a thread Awaiting Treatment: Part Two in the General Forum. I always hated the term "graduate" when referring to pg, so I decided against Awaiting Treatment Graduates.

MP

[Welshgirl38]

Mia,

Thanks hun - ur understanding of all this is very much appreciated, if we feel the need to pop in ur thread and check up on how ur pregnancies are doing, then we can do so - in our own time ..... we dont want anyone to leave, i want us ALL to stay friends here, just the pics etc can go on to the - part 2 site - i love the banter we get here just chatting about silly things - american idol being one of ur topics lol - thank u for understanding hun ... i deff will pop in and keep my beady eye on u, and i hope this hasnt come between any of us on here ..

Love, as always

Becky Xxx

[shantala]

woah woah woah ladies......OF COURSE we all understand!!!!! i;m surprised actually that this hasnt been brought up sooner. i agree that this thread should stay the awaiting tmt thread (literally) and that us ladies should post about prgcies on another thread. after all, there is a "pregnant after tmt" forum on here. another thread (thanks mia) is also perfect. i certainly will be posting on both. welsh...lots of hugs to you, good on you for mentioning this....we SO understand. and soon, you can join us on the other thread....anyway, ive completely lost track of time...have you started stimms yet (think you have)?? how you getting on with them??

hi to everyone else!!

xxx

[Welshgirl38]

Hey Shantala xxxxxx

Hows you hun? And of course not forgetting ur gawjuss wee one xxxx for her too.

Thanks for ur comments, ive just text u - but no doubt ur out of credit

Thanks to u too for being so understanding, i think i may have offended a few people here as some havent been in for some time, or if they have then they havent commented - i didnt want that - i want us all to stay friends, i do hope i havent upset anyone.

I havent started stimms yet (how much longer i hear u asking) well its Wednesday this week (woooooooo hoooooooooo 2 more days) 2 more sleeps, then i cans tart to inject myself twice every morning lol - i so cant wait to get back to normal - im worried now tho that cos my body is sooooooooo used to feeling like shit - that when i start stimms, the side effects of feeling normal are gonna be weird ha ha ha! Not that i ever was normal to start with hee hee ...

Hope all u other ladies are well. I was thinking Mia if u want to take part of the list with u to 'the other side' then thats ok too, we can keep it here also to remind us of how lucky this thread is (and also we dont want to lose all our friendships either) and u can copy and paste it to ur new thread - what do u think?

Becky Xxxx