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ICSI GIRL wrote: so how far from london are you???? oh what fuN!!! i too love people watching!! one of my favorite things EVER!!!
We'll go by public transport (so we can both drink :wink: ). Probably take us about 45 - 50 min. Not too bad.
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Don't think Carolyn will post until she reaches her Dad's place. Hopefully she does remember us once she gets there and stops drooling over the birthday cake.

Don't know where Becky is though. Has she deserted us???? :(
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Mwah!

Me desert u guys ......... now u are being silly wee pups lol

Sorry, but work is mega busy - and been trying to keep off internet during work hours, had a horrible feeling that they know what im at = no work lol, so i got a little scared lol ...

Anyhow, glad everyone is doing really well - sorry i missed ur excitment before ur scan Carolyn - no doubt ur on cloud 9 now (its 2.07pm here an ur scan wasa t 1.30pm) hope it all went well - i do hate having the

'dildo cam'

But - if it brings good news - bring on the dildo cam i say :)

So ladies, what is everyone at this weekend ... ive just bought Brian a Gezebo - its lovely and big (hexegon shape) i hope he likes it - he always moaning that its cold when the sun goes down after a BBQ - this way we can stay in the shade an keep warm :)

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Hello Ladies!!!!

How are you all doing? As I see, you all are just fabulous!!!! Well I guess I should let you know why I havent been posting much. DH & I are having a hard time right now. We are so grateful that (hopefully) we can use his sperm and do ICSI with IVF, but we are so inpatient. We wanted to start this summer and finanically, we just cant. We were going to re-finance the house to get the money but with the US economy being absolutely crap, our home value has went down. So we cant take moeny out on it. We do not want to use credit cards or a loan b/c we know we would get a better rate with a refinance. We are just really bummed and feel like we are never going to be able to start trying, much less actually have a baby. So I feel stupid posting here. I feel like everyone is going to be in part two of awaiting tmt and I will be all alone here... :cry: But I do keep up reading !!!! :)

Angie- So sorry babe! You sound so upbeat and positive. You really are an inspiration!!! Like the rest of the girlies said, at least you know you can get pg. Now they need to make it stick. Did you tell DH? Big hugs!!!

Angel- How are you?? You make me laugh so much with your posts!!!!

Becky- Hey there!!! You sound really good too!!!! So happy about your dr app!!!!

Carolyn! Doing a follie jig for you!!!!
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Miracle, girl you had us worried for you.

Sorry that you are having a difficult time right now. You do not need to feel silly posting here. If you have had time to catch up, you'll see the varied things we tend to talk about, a lot of it unrelated to IF. You'll have a hard time deciding if Angie is the crazy one or Becky :wink: :lol:

On the financial side, we totally understand. As if dealing with IF on its own is not bad enough, there is the financial blow. And the uncertainty of whether it will work or not is what stops most of us from taking drastic actions. Like DH said if it was guaranteed that after spending so much, we would have a BFP, then its ok to spend the next 10 years paying off the loan - but sadly its not. And while sometimes I don't really care how we do it, DH is the sensible one who wants to look out for the longer term.

I'm sure you have looked into different avenues but as a thought, have you looked into egg sharing? It does substantially reduce the cost. I have even seen some advertisements (here in UK) where they offer free treatment for egg sharers and all you have to pay for is meds.

Due to various circumstances which I won't go into, my cycle has been delayed too. Initially we thought it would be Aug/ Sep but now it looks like we will have to wait till October and even that is not a given. So Mir, all I'm trying to say is that we really do understand how difficult the waiting part is. I still have my "feeling low" days when I wonder if I'll ever have the joys of holding our baby. And I do tend to completely breakdown.

Wish there was more we could do for you hun.

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Angel you are the BESTEST!!!!! Those are tears of gratefullness to have such great friends!!!! I so apprieciate your kind words. I am sorry for being such a dummy!!! I know you girls know exactly how it feels.

Yeah, I have totally thought about egg sharing. I would be totally ok with that. I just have to get off my lazy arse and get some information about it. I dont know how the US does it. When I start thinking about doing that, I feel really really bad b/c of the "other" lady trying to have a baby. I feel like I am costing her more money. I would so donate my eggs for free!!! Do you understand what I am trying to say??

I am so sorry your tmt has been pushed back. Who knows, maybe the market will be back up and we can cycle together!!!! Like we thought were before!! :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Thank you so much Angel. You are such a sweet, caring, generous person!!!!!
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OHHHHHh CAROLYN LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WHERE ARE YOU????????????????????????? HOPEFULLY CELEBRATING B/C OF ALL YOUR BEAUTIFUL FOLLIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :lol: :lol: :lol:
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Miracle08 wrote:I am so sorry your tmt has been pushed back. Who knows, maybe the market will be back up and we can cycle together!!!! Like we thought were before!! :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
person!!!!!
Like you girls across the pond would say, "That would be AWESOME!!!!" :D

Thaks for your kind words Mir.

Don't ever forget that you can be honest about your feelings here cause we are all:

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Miracle08 wrote::cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:
Yeah, I have totally thought about egg sharing. I would be totally ok with that. I just have to get off my lazy arse and get some information about it. I dont know how the US does it. When I start thinking about doing that, I feel really really bad b/c of the "other" lady trying to have a baby. I feel like I am costing her more money. I would so donate my eggs for free!!! Do you understand what I am trying to say??
Yes, I do understand. But the way you've got to look at it is that instead of giving money to the clinic, the other woman is funding your treatment. I totally understand that when we are going through this, you'd rather just give your eggs for free.

If you feel really strongly about that bit, you could always make a decision to specifically donate eggs after you get your baby. I've always said to DH that is something I would like to do depending on whether I'm still eligible for it after we have our baby. Also if we ever have any extra embryos after we have had our BFP, I would like to donate them with the provisio that the clinic does not charge for them. But having been a poor responder, I doubt whether I'd ever be able to do either.

Its not easy, but we'll all get there in the end, right ladies????
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Yeah, that is what I am planning on doing!! I told DH that after we had our baby that I wanted to donate my eggs for free. I would love to help out other ladies that can afford to pay for donor eggs. i am not sure about the UK, but here is is THOUSANDS!!! It really is ridiculous!!!

Yes, we WILL get there. Just takes time!! :wink:
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hello my lovelies !

Just reached Yorkshire and have posted at first opportunity - scan went well found 4 ripe ones on right and left and also a bunch of smaller ones - much better than 3 in totsal from last cycle :D

Got another scan on monday and retrieval is anticipated as Thursday - which is better for me as not back to work till monday - hopefully they will grow some more in that time too

Mir - grat to hear from you - I know how you feel about posting as when I had BFN in september i did not post for ages as felt out of loop but we are all here for you - xx

Icsi, Angel and becky - have fab weekend = catch you sunday when get home

Lots of love
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Carolyn, so sorry about not responding all weekend especially after hassling you to give us a follie report. But great news. They seem to be growing well. Is that 4 on each side, or 4 total. The smaller ones have plenty of time to catch up. Remember they have a growth spurt in the last few days esp after the trigger. Did you have a good weekend? Did your Dad enjoy his birthday?

Becky - did you have a BBQ to try out th gazebo? How much more weight have you lost this week? I'm feeling quite demotivated. Don't think I'm ever going to shift those extra pounds.

Angie - tell me your project is over now.......please. You really do need to come out to play more.

Miracle - hopefully you will come on here more. Angie seems to have found other friends now. :(
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Angel505 wrote:Carolyn, Is that 4 on each side, or 4 total. The smaller ones have plenty of time to catch up. Remember they have a growth spurt in the last few days esp after the trigger. Did you have a good weekend? Did your Dad enjoy his birthday?
hi Angel - 4 on each side - >15 :D :D and lots of small ones - way belly is bloated today feels like theres a hundred in there!!

Had great weekend - and Dad had great day - we had family photo done of me, DH, brother and SIL - one of the casual ones - they loved it - it was a joint present as both 70 this year :lol:

Did you have a good wekend - did you get to see a show - saw there ae lots of cheap theatre tickets at moment :D

Meant to be working from home - first day back - 150 emails - now lost the will to live and thought would come and see how everyone was!!

Icsi/ Becky/MIr - where are you all ???

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carolyn -- FAB news on the follies girl!!!!!!!!!!! it MUST be cuz of all our follie dances and vibes that we've been doing for ya :wink: (if only it were that easy-peasy!!! :roll: ) good to hear your dads party went well... thats always fun............

angel -- hi there girl........UNFORTUNATELY, my project is NOT over just yet.......the end of this week is my deadline though -- so with any luck at all -- next week will be done finally!!!!! i didn't know (til reading/catching up just now) that your tmt had been pushed back a bit......why didn't you tell us :cry: member last week when i was getting the speech on "you guys being here for me"???????????????????? atleast you sound "ok" with it -- yes????? ((((((BIG HUGS SWEETIE)))))))) on a brigher note -- how was london???? did you have a big time??? have a few cocktails?????

oh mir.............bigger ((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))) to you my friend..... so very sorry about your treatment being delayed........that sucks -- it just sucks!! :evil: i so wish there was something i could do..... but as angel said --- don't ever feel foolish for posting out here.......it's the very reason we exist -- to support each other thru times like this......got it?? :wink:

beck --- hows u hun??? how did brian like his gazebo???????

a big hello to all of my other readers out there!!! not much newsy going on in my world ----------- LAST WEEK was a different story!!! am supposed to go in one day this week (probably thursday) for bw to confirm my numbers have gone back down.......i HATE those appts :evil: oh well.......life goes on.......had busy weekend (which included coming to the office :roll: ) -- sunday was lovely weather and really enjoyed "fathers day" w/ dh and dss's.........now i'm afraid -- i must get back to work!!! :D
:-) Angie
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Looks like everyone is suffering from the MONDAY BLUES judging by the number of (or lack of) postings here.

Carolyn - 8 > 15mm is just amazing. Plus some of the little ones will catch up too. Glad you had a good time with your family. Ooohhh....you got to celebrate his birthday and fathers day at the same time. 150 e-mails???? Wow you must be some important person.

I've only received 2 work related e-mails and 0 phone calls. And refrained form getting on the net all morning. So quite pleased with what I've achieved at work. Still got loads to do though :( . Did I say I hate Mondays????

Angie - in the big scheme of things, a bit more of a delay does not seem a lot, but at the same time it feels years away. You know what I'm saying? I wish I could start tomorrow. We were talking about planning things and DH suggested delaying tmt by yet another month. I almost whacked him :evil: Poor thing said,..."but I thought we were just discussing and having a conversation.......its not like its been decided...... :? ". When I calmed down later, we both laughed about it cause I admit I over reacted, but I did say that do not even let that thought cross your mind again.

London was fab. We didn't go to the theatre in the end and just walked by the river instead. Met up with some friends later on in the day and yes, I did have some cocktails.
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