Awaiting Treatment

[wishfull27]

hellooo

am AWOL for a one day and you all go post crazt

Sophie - have read through the posts of your stressful 24 hours and am sooooo pleased that all is ok - that beta is an excellent one and you got one strong beanie in there - sending you big hugs((()))

Becky/Angel - sounds like you too have been on the attack DH mode - I think its only natural and we all go through this - its part of life anyway but when you add the joyful IVF into the equation it makes things a million times worse - we all know they love us though and as you both said the making up is the best

Mir - sorry you been busy too - darn work

Well we are still no further forward on clinic - had another one back from Chechz but there currenlty scheduling trreatment for June 2009 - no way can I wait that long!!! - am just getting frustrated by the low replies..arghhhh

Had a crappy couple of days at work making people redundant so just want to chill tonight and forget about everything - easier said than done I know - but joined this relaxation and meditation class - 8 week course and am thoroughly enjoying it - and am sure it is jhelping me to switch off .. got meeting all day tom - but should be around friday

Love to all

xxx

[wishfull27]

the madness of this thread - post crazy one day .. come back the next and nothing at all

Hope everyone ok ????

Will anyone be out there tomorrow????

[Miracle08]

You are right Carolyn!!! It is like everyone disappeared!!!!


Hope everyone is doing good and not working too hard.

Pma, thinking of you and baby!!!!

[PMApsy]

I'm here!!!! :D:D:D

oooooooooooooooooohman.. I just splurged on the nicest little raspberry jam pastry.... :D:D

Angel,

LOL you've been having free sessions since I joined this thread! mwahahahahaaaa! Though international virtual group therapy could spice up this thread... hum.. what do you think?

Seriously, I hear you on the cyclic nature of your anger. Why should you see it as a mistake?? I see two possible explanations... either the cause of your anger is something you still haven't put your finger on, or discussed with your husband. So you get angry, you explode, you calm down and it comes back because something is never addressed. Or it's just an unsolvable issue.

When I do couples therapy, I usually follow Dr John Gottman's models. In his model, each and every couple has to deal with unsolvable issues. They usually revolve around themes such as chores, religion, parental style, money, sex and I keep forgetting the sixth! But unsolvables issues will create exactly that. Couples will fight again and again about the very same issues. And each time they fight, they'll feel like the other is just not listening or not cooperating, because they keep discussing again, right? Wrong! Those issues will come back for the rest of their lives. So the fact they argue about it once every other month is perfectly normal. The trick is to switch your attitude towards the arguments. When you see them as unavoidable, as something every couple has to face and as something that has little to do with your partner's efforts (the fact you discuss it often), your attitude changes during the discussions per se. Your frustration is lower, and you stop blaming your partner or attacking his personality, and the discussion happens in a healthier manner.

I don't know if that helps, I just thought I'd share that with you... oh, and I TOTALLY approve you escaping from work! LOL!

Becky,
I agree with Miracle! it's okay to disagree, as long as it doesn't take you apart... I'm sure once she's there you'll both benefit from each other's position and adapt to the situation... *HUGS*

Sorry to be so expeditive... I have to see a patient pronto and get out of here!

Cheerio!

Sophie xxox

[Angel505]

Hiya,

How are we all today?? I am soooo glad its Friday. Can't wait for the day to be over.

Carolyn, I'm around today. How was your meeting yesterday? Sounds like you love your work as much as I do (NOT!!!).

Sophie, now that the worry about your beanie is behind you, you are back to your normal chirpy self. So glad that you've joined this thread. And I absolutely love free counselling. Actually what you wrote made a lot of sense. It wasn't the argument that bothered me as much as the fact that I keep on repeating it in spite of feeling sorry afterwards. I did realise though that this episodes do happen when I am feeling extremely stressed out - that feeling that you can't handle things. One of the things my RE recommended before the next round was to learn some relaxation technique. I will try.

How are you keeping? Any signs of ms yet?


Miracle - is your inventory over yet? Come back and play with us.

Becky - how was the make up BCABB???? When does DD go to Uni? I guess you're going to spend some time with her before she goes. Still a few weeks to go before you start poking yourslef with them needles right?

Come one peeps, come out and play today.

[Angel505]

Reporting to all stations........reporting to all stations.............

Becky has been identified! Make sure she doesn't bugger off without saying hi.

[Welshgirl38]

Morning Ladies

How are u all this morning???

Well i have had a titful ladies Im sorry if im down it has nothing to do with tmt, just family life at the moment.
DH an i are ok, but things with DD are really bad I really dont know what to do, i dont know how it got this far an i cant put it right.
She is a lovely wee thing, but shows us no respect at all - i know she a teenager an i know that she will be going thru a lot herslef, but she just doesnt listen to us or doesnt understand what we are trying to do for her. There are so many things i could point out to u, but i wud be here all day...

Take her birthday for instance. We had origianally told her she could have a digital camera for her birthday an she was happy enuff with this. Then she had asked for a lap top to go to Uni - so we said that if she passed her exams she cud have a lap top, but was to pay £100 towards it (she always gerts that amount off her granny for birthday!) she was fine with this. So looking at the cos of laptops, i had said to her that as Uni an her birthday were within 3 weeks of each other (remember she was having bouncy castle an a big party with 50+ people at our house, which we had to feed etc) that we couldnt afford the camera an that she wud have to make do with just the lap top. She was ok with that (to our faces - but went off an told her m8's an her sister that it wasnt fair cos she had worked to pass her exams to get a laptop bla bla bla)
To cut a long story short - i paid £130 for a digital camera for her, with a case an an extra memory card - she got the house decorated, a cake an friends to her party. Three weeks later she passed her exams, so yesterday she got her new Dell wide screen laptop as promised. By the time we got it an got back from work, DH had uploaded photoshop for her as she likes to mess about with her photos, an also a good anti virus. She came back from work an first thnig she did was go on the laptop (fair enuff)

This morning i went onto my bebo account and her b/f is on mine too (as she is) an i was looking at her b/f's page (as u do lol) an she had made a comment on there saying how shite her laptop am cos i never d/l msn for her she was gonna be a while before she could talk to him .... so i messaged her an left her a message saying that she is 18 but acting like a 5 year old .... im so hurt that she could say stuff like that for everyone to read about us when we have done everything for her. This isnt the first time she has said things like this about us, but this is the last resort now. We have done everything for her - we just bought her all new stuff for uni, bedclothes, curtains, all kitchen utensils - an she goes an says this about us - im at my wits ens ladies, dunno what to do ....

Its gotten to the point that im thinking - do i need to do all this over again when im 60 .... should i be going for ivf if i feel like this, i really dont know what to do

[Welshgirl38]

Reporting to all stations........reporting to all stations.............

Becky has been identified! Make sure she doesn't bugger off without saying hi.

HAHAHAHA i said more than just Hi LOL

Xxxx

[Angel505]

Becky Hun, (((((((((massive hugs))))))))))))

Sorry am not a parent so not qualified to give you any advice on your DD's behaviour. Sometimes, this wish of parents to give their children all the love and support in the world can be double edged . Sometimes it is appreciated, other times it makes people take you for granted.

Going away to Uni may make her think and appreciate you and DH more. And don't get too stressed out by it all. As teenagers we all went through phases. And this is probably what it is - a phase. Here's hoping it will pass soon.

Lots of love

[Miracle08]

Hello ladies!!! Boy I am glad to see some posts today!!!

Hi Angel! You had me laughing at your internet police!!!! It is only 7:22 in the morning here, and lets just say I am not a morning person. But OMG...I laughed sooo hard at your post!!!! I LOVE IT!!! How are you? HOw is work? NO, inventory is NOT done. As of OCT 1, it will be finished.

Becky love! First of all, I hope this doesnt come across rude. I think your daughter takes what she has for granted. She is used to getting everything she wants from you and DH. It has nothing to do with you and DH. She is just making herself look like a spoiled rotten child. Maybe you should stop everything and tell her to pay for her way. Maybe then she will realize how good she has it. I know this is a typical parent lecture, but there are so many people out there that do not have 1/3 of what she does. There are so many parents that can't afford to pay for all the things you and DH have. My sister went to college for 6 years!! And let me tell you, she worked 3 jobs, went to school full time and still kept her GPA where it needed to be. My parents were not in the postion to help. She had some scholarships, but she had to pay out of pocket for a lot as well.
This makes me so very proud of her!! It just shows you can do it if you have the determination!!! Cut her off Beck!!! Let her see how the real world is!! And if I offended you in anyway, I truly apologize!!!

Pma hi there!!! So glad you are getting back to yourself. When is next U/S?? How are you feeling? Any m/s or anything???

Carolyn...where are you? I am here, and Angel, and Becky!!!

I will be checking back ladies!!

[wishfull27]

Helloo - was just about to put morning - looked at the clock and realised how late it is !!!

Becky - sending you big hugs - am sure it is just a phase and we were all probably as bad - well I know I was - except back in thiose days there were not laptops to tell the world in such an insensitive way ((())) xx

Mir - hello - sorry work is still crap - how is Dh job hunting going??

PMA - glad you have all those inital worries behind you - and thanks for all the insights intwhy we feel like we do

angel - hows you - hope the pressure at work has eased off and you have had some thanks for holding it ll together x

Had boring meeting yesterday and 2 day conference mon/tues which will make me lose the will to live and we have to stay over and be nice to people don't even like

Still no futrther forward with next cycel - wiaitng for emails back - have given up on others - if can't be bothered to respond obvioulsy not interested in treating me

Oh and this bloody depressing weather and rain

carolyn xx

[Angel505]

Hey Miracle!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Glad I could make you laugh.


Carolyn, yeah the weather here is crap. Still haven't eaten anything all day cause don't want to go out in this horrible rain.

Work......ease off.......thanks...............no such thing I'm afraid. The boss came back a day late, comes in for 2 hours (all tanned and relaxed) to hear me give an update about how things are going terribly wrong and unless we have more people we are not meeting the deadline. Plus clients are being difficult too. Its all too much. He then says that we'll review the situation next week, goes off to see other people and now working from home since then. Do I even get a word out of him - NO!!! He could be watching DVDs now for all I know. Thats why I got upset the other day and walked outta here.

Once I start my rant about workk, I can't seem to stop

Sounds like things are not that great with you at work either. Sorry about the lack of responses from the clinics. How about you try calling them?

Where is everyone else????

[wishfull27]

oh dear - am sure my staff think am watching TV all day when work from home too - but no I am on here instead!!!!

Figured if can't answer email not interested - will wait for this one reply back from Prague - have had inital email and go from there I think.. just feel so in limbo!!

Anything exciting planned for weekend??

[Angel505]

oh dear - am sure my staff think am watching TV all day when work from home too - but no I am on here instead!!!!

I work from home too sometimes, but always call to check if everythings ok at work. Also am available if anyone e-mails/ calls.

[Miracle08]

hi girls!!!

Carolyn, yes my DH has found a job. He starts Monday. Only bad thing is it is a $12 hr. pay cut. Right now we have to take what we can get with this economy. Thanks for thinking of us.
I am sorry to hear that some of the clinics havent even emailed you. That is so horrible. I hate when clinics treat you like that. Our weather is gloomy and rainy too!!! We have a hurricane to the east of us by 125 miles so we are getting some of it.

Angel!! You always make me laugh. You are so funny!

What are you girls doing this weekend?

Sat me and a girlfriend are going shopping for her to find a dress to go to her sis in laws wedding. We will have fun. We always have fun together!!! Sunday is my down day. I usually will do laundry and stuff like that while being lazy!!!