Hey everyone. I just wanted to come on and share my exciting news. I felt and honest to God, no way it could be anything else, I'm not imagining it, real life baby kick today.
Not a flutter, which I've been feeling since about 13 1/2 weeks, but I was sitting here at the computer this afternoon, (after just having ate, which is when I feel the flutters more than any other time) and I was feeling the flutters and then BOOM, a light little kick.
It was amazing and I called DH and cried like a baby, AGAIN.
We've been through so much. And going through that today humbled me in that all our hard work and tears and sadness has paid off to a point. I've waited and wanted to feel that my whole life, a little voice inside my head said that there was a chance that this might never happen while we where going trough all of this and I remembered it today. And was so happy it was wrong.
I felt like I've gone through a right of passage today. Sorry to ramble and sound corny, but I'm just so happy and I wanted to share it with you all.
Hi SilverAngel and Daddy!
What a delight to read about your joy! So it was a real kick!
Hope you have many more kicks and soft punches and all other joys still waiting around the corner.
I think it is a rite of passage and it is a great victory for you both.
Best wishes, Literatriz
me 50, dh 54
2 BFN after IVF in Brazil
1 BFP after IVF in Brazil (Clinic Origen, thanks!)
Okay, ladies I'm officially getting freaked out about the twins. I'm thinking how I'm going to care for two little babies. Is anyone else getting scared at the prospect of having two babies at once? Dh is only taking one week from work and my mom coming for two weeks after so I will be on my own when they are three weeks old!!!!!!!!!
silverangel-I'm so excited for you! How exciting. I bet it makes everything that much more real. It's great finally realizing that all of the work, sweat, and tears you have put in for this moment have finally paid off. Good Work!!
Stefanie-TWO boys!! That's great! Let the shopping begin!! I'm sure they will be best of friends!
Crescendo97-I've been feeling that scared feeling for about a month now too. It's a little overwhelming. Luckily my excitement is overshadowing my fear. I feel you though! It's scary! I'm mainly worried about the sleepless days and nights that are to come. I don't do well on no sleep. It will all be so worth it though! How far along are you now?
CARISA
me-30 hubby-30
ttc-5 1/2 yrs
IVF/ICSI#2 using a gestational carrier-BFP!
1st beta 9dp5dt-177, 11dp5dt-439-TWINS!
I'm 23 and 2days so reality is starting to set in. DH is totally against hiring help. He does not trust anyone in our home. I'm working on convicing him other wise.
AFM - I suffered a miscarriage of my babies this week - diagnosed with inompetent cervix, unfortunately too late. Been through an ordeal the past couple of days.
I hope to be able to check on you guys but it may be too emotional for me to keep up. Take care all.
Crescendo- DH will have to get over his fear of others. Even if it is just someone to clean and do things while you care for babies, from what I know... you will need help. I hope he comes around before it all happens and you are desperate for help. I totally sympathise.... DH and I live far away from ANY family so we are without help too... can't even go there yet. Right now I am just dealing w/ people laughing and telling us we need to move from our tiny apartment....Duh. I am on pelvic rest and DH has a stressful job and we haven't had TIME to think of these things. People are so annoying.
On a happy note. - we told family yesterday - and we got so many offers for cribs and pac n plays and strollers and clothes and that makes me really happy.
Sweetmomi: I'm so depressed by your news today. I can't begin to express how sorry I am for all 5 of you, You, your DH your 2 boys and your little girl
It's a cruel thing to have happen and I just want you to know that I know what your going through as I have gone through loosing an angel myself. If you need to talk, please know that I am here for you any time. Just drop me a line.
If I could ask you though, I know that you've been talking about reduction in your last few post. Did the doctors see this comming and that was why they recommended it? Or was it something else?
Stefanie: I changed your ticker from unisex to show your 2 boys. I hope you like it.
Has any one else found out the sex of their babies? If any one is going to let it be a surprise, please let me know so I can fix the tickers accordingly. Thanks every one.
wow. I'm sorry I missed your post. I must've sounded like an ass. Sometimes when I haven't been on line I am reading so quickly and my eyes must've skippe your post.
I am so very sorry. I know there is nothing I can say, but I want to send you all the healing and time you need. This is so painful. I had miscarriage at 12 weeks a year + ago and It is just awful.
Take it easy and I am here and we are all here if you need to talk about it. I'm so very sorry.
stefanie
Hi,
Sorry Sweetmomy. So sorry. Hope you find a quite healing place in your heart. Please write if you feel like it -it must have been overwhelmingly painful. But we understand your silence and your need for space.
In solidarity, Literatriz
me 50, dh 54
2 BFN after IVF in Brazil
1 BFP after IVF in Brazil (Clinic Origen, thanks!)
Hi all,
I think we are all touched by Sweemomi's loss. All explanations won't minimize her pain. We are so vulnerable in our hopes...
Stefanie, congratulations on your OK results - and the two boys. Good luck! Now the whole family knows and you are ready to accept hand me downs, gifts and...suggestions on everything from scheduled feeding to pot training. Get ready to be thankful but hold on to your boundaries.
SilverAngel, hope all continues to be well with you!
Crescendo97, you bring a very important question to our forum. I've read books and webpages on raising multiples. It seems that parental stress and birth weight are the MOST important variables on the development of the babies. Sleep deprived parents are not the best parents. Your husband is taking only one week...and then what? Maybe you could contact some multiples organizations (Mother of Multiples, etc) and schedule a consultation with a parent volunteer that may educated your DH on the importance of making sure that the caregivers and not depressed/exhausted/irritable. With good supervision, a helper can have a positive impact on your child's development.
Are we all freaking out with the big task of caring for more than one baby? You bet! My DH says he feels like someone who is in the middle of a rollercoaster ride - no regrets but a great fear! My mom will come in and I will need to be very tactful and firm in letting her know that I welcome the help but will keep the house running as my (and DH's) house. It is a tricky business, I know but...having a child is a very good moment to expand our capacity to ask, receive and - later on- help others. I'd love to hear from others how they are planning their daily lives after giving birth!
Best wishes, Literatriz
me 50, dh 54
2 BFN after IVF in Brazil
1 BFP after IVF in Brazil (Clinic Origen, thanks!)