Honestly, I never found a way not to suffer while waiting. It was impossible for me, but my best suggestion is movies and trashy romance novels!
Me: 44 severely reduced reserve
DH: 44 perfect
IVF 1: Feb 08 -BFP twins (lost one at 7 weeks, one at 13 weeks)
IVF 2: June 08 -BFN
IVF 3: September 08 -BFN
IVF 4: November 08 - Katherine Emma born 8/9/2009
Aida... First, good luck to you for a BFP!!! I haven't figured out how to make the 2WW go by any faster. I ended up watching a lot of movies, surfed the Internet, and went out with family or friends, but it was always on my mind.
As for the 5dt question, some REs will wait for the embryos to grow 5 days in the lab and then transfer it into the uterus. My clinic will only wait it out to 5 days if we have 15 or more embryos to work with. Their reasoning is the longer you wait, the more likelihood a lot of the embryos will not survive outside the uterus. For instance, I had 17 embryos on Day 3, but by Day 5, I only had 6 that were still growing. Everyone one is different. If you could choose which day to transfer, some people believe a 5dt is better b/c it's more mature and has a better rate of implantation. However, there are many women who have done 3 (or 2) day transfers and have been successful. And some people believe it's better to put the embryo in the uterus sooner b/c that is the best "incubator" for it. So there is a lot of argument as to which is better. Hope this helps.
And I can't believe your doctor said you don't have a right to cry. How horrible! He must not understand what we go through emotionally and mentally during the 2 WW. It's definitely okay to feel what you're feeling at any moment. I've cried many, many times during this process, but it's having hope that this will work for me that keeps me going.
Good luck to you!!!
Me: 36, DH:37
IVF #2: Jan '09- BFP! :-)
FET: Nov '10- transferred 1 embie- BFN :-(
Baby Alexander born September 20th, 2009!
i had a 3 day transfer 2x and resulted in 2 bfp's so try not to stress so much and keep positive thoughts flowing. As far as your dr. is concerned i bet he is a man that said it.... the heck with your re, let it out. i cried over not wanting to take another stim shot the first time and my re looked at me like i was crazy but you know what? it made me feel a lot better after my cry! you are allowed, with all these hormones we are taking it is only natural to be overly emotional..... GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR BFP!!!! will you test at home?
Me 34
DH 39- Male Factor
DC 3 1/2
TCC #2
IVF #1 4/04 BFP Twins lost one at 11weeks, delveried DS Jan 05 c-section
FET Cycle 6/08 = BFN
FET Cycle 11/08 = 2 embryos 3 day transfer BFP! beta #1 9 days- 36.4 beta#2 95.6
SO I am also in the 2ww had my ER on Jan 10 we got 20 eggs and today the clinic called to let meknow that 12 had fertilized wow we are hoping that enough make it to be able to freeze them we will get more info on how they are dividing in the morning and when we get to transfer them back
Although I do have one question how long does it take for the HCG shot to get out of ur system
ME 30 Tubes Removed DH Perfect
1st IVF March 2007 BFN
2nd IVF ER Jan 8th ET Jan 11th
BETA Jan 23rd BFN
FET Scheduled for March Hopefully
I was losing my mind in the 2ww and so I got a puppy!
Now I am pregnant, and losing my mind BECAUSE I have a puppy~
It's alot of work, but it definitely kept me occupied!!!!
1st IVF~DD 2004
2nd IVF~ 2008 BFP
Thank you Lord for this blessing
love and miss you gram and baby b
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So the clinic called me with good news this morning and I have a total of 12 fertilized eggs that 6 of them are dividing faster than noormal and the other six are right where they need to be nurese says that its the shot of starbucks she gave my DH sperm the morning of ER 9actually we done ICSI and I think thats why we had better fertilizationt his time)
so I go in at 9:00 in the morning to get my babies back and we are transfering three back And I cant wait I am so nervous and excitied all at the same time
I have found that doing my work at my job helps to keep my mind off of it
ME 30 Tubes Removed DH Perfect
1st IVF March 2007 BFN
2nd IVF ER Jan 8th ET Jan 11th
BETA Jan 23rd BFN
FET Scheduled for March Hopefully
Wow your clinic actually gave your dh a shot of coffee? Inetersting- I had read an article that said that men who drank coffee and then ttc about an hour to two after have a higher chance of conceiving. That is really intereting to see a clinic use it as a protocol! Congratulations and good luck on your transfer. Make sure to relax on your 2ww!
Aida- when is your beta scheduled? Sending you lots of sticky vibes!
Me 34
DH 39- Male Factor
DC 3 1/2
TCC #2
IVF #1 4/04 BFP Twins lost one at 11weeks, delveried DS Jan 05 c-section
FET Cycle 6/08 = BFN
FET Cycle 11/08 = 2 embryos 3 day transfer BFP! beta #1 9 days- 36.4 beta#2 95.6
Dear hope33,
My Beta HCG is due on the 18th Jan, it is exactly 13 days after transfer, thought I will do it on the 15th which is day 9th. Well I read somewhere that other clinic do t on the 9th.
No sry to ocnfuse you but last time my DH spermies were being lazy and this time we did ICSI and she was kidding about the starbucks she was making a joke because last time we had 18 eggs and only 5 fertilized and this time we have 20 and 12 have fertilized
We go back in tomorrow for our ET just wondering if we have three grade a should we put all three back?
Very excited about it this time and it looks like we are going to have some to freeze this time we hope so
ME 30 Tubes Removed DH Perfect
1st IVF March 2007 BFN
2nd IVF ER Jan 8th ET Jan 11th
BETA Jan 23rd BFN
FET Scheduled for March Hopefully
Aida80 - All clinics are different when they do the beta test. If you did your beta 9 dp 3dt (9days past 3 day transfer), then you would only be on day 12 which might be early. My clinic usually has us do Betas on day 14 but only as long as day 14 is not on a weekend. They don't do betas on weekends. As far as getting your period if it doesn't work. Some women do bleed before their beta. Other women don't get AF till after stopping the progestrone supplements. It is really confusing because also women sometime get implantation bleeding which can be confused with AF. So don't read too much into how your body is reacting. Also, the progestrone supplements will mimic both pregnancy symptons and AF symptons. This is why the 2ww suck so much. You can do a home pregnancy test but I would wait till a few day before your beta, and also keep in mind that if you get a negative that there is still hope. A lot of women that have gotten a negative with HPT on the day of their beta and still end up PG. Hope this helps.
Good Luck.
Chris
Chris 40- DH 41
6 IVFs Cycles - BFN's
DE Cycle 2/2011 -BFP Jacob born 11/11/11
I think this time I will spend the time with my family and parents and hope days will go by fast....
I remeber getting a mild period when I got pregnant once last year (without IVF), the urine test came back positive. But unfortunately, it ended up in missed abortion on week 7. that time i did not get my periods again until 4 weeks afte the DC. Doc told me it was becuase of the progesterone supplements.