Awaiting Treatment

[wishfull27]

thanks Angel - lecture on HPT's accepted and will not be naughty again

[PMApsy]

HI guys,

Just a quick note as I'm in a rush, but like Angel I couldn't just run off...

Carolyn, my sweet, those HPTs are a nasty business! I'm sorry the one you took gave you such a disappointment, but you know it's not over until the fat lady sings. The pharmacist explained how HCG is first produced by your embie(s), then dumped into your bloodstream, then dumped into your urine... and you test with urine!!!! You're actually testing the residue of a residue.. no wonder so many women have false negatives all the time! Two friends of mine became pregnant and didn't test positive until 40 days after their last period, at least. So please hunny... resist the urge and get a beta on Friday, it's the only reliable test you can trust... And don't let your mind play tricks on you my darling!

In the meantime, you know I'm thinking of you and sending you lots of good vibes! You have excellent chances this time, and you have frosties waiting for you in addition. The situation looks good sweetie!

Many hugs,

Sophie xxox

[Sara30]

Hi everyone

I have had to do some work today so not a lot of time either, we are all busy busy today,

Carolyn, sending you bunches of PMA will join in with sabi and her magic wand!! I loved your description sabi I could just picture you doing it!!!

Will catch up with you all properly tommorrow.

xxx

[Miracle08]

Hi girls!

Carolyn...you still arent out of the game. i am praying for you babe!

[Sara30]

Oooooohhhhhhhhhhhh where is everyone????????????????? Just thought I would pop in and say hello really busy week this week and next.

Hoping everyone is ok, Sophie hope you are doing ok, has little man made an early appearance??

Carolyn really really really hoping for your BFP tommorrow, hoping your ok too, will DH be gone before you get your results.

I will pop back later to see if there has been any action on this thread!!! Hope everyone is enjoying the sunshine we are having here in the UK, have been in shorts and t-shirts last couple of days yahayyyyyyy.

Take Care everyone

Lots of love xxxxx

[nimble]

Carolyn - hoping I've got this right but believe it's your beta day tomorrow.

Wishing you lots of luck but you won't need it - can't wait to see your BFP - this is your time. Good luck hun - will be thinking of you.

Nims xxx

[PMApsy]

Hi guys,

Always puzzles me when the thread suddenly goes silent... I guess everybody is busy with their lives!!! Don't work too hard guys!

Carolyn,
How are you doing hun? Would love to have news, make sure you're okay... thinking of you dearest...

Lee,
Great to see you around sweetie! Nope, absolutely no progress on my situation, cervix exactly the same, body as weird as before. Baby is very low, she could feel his head, which is good... but doesn't mean that I'll deliver sooner rather than later. I decided to let it go, and go with the flow. My friend delivered her baby on Sunday morning however; she had a quick and easy labor and I'm very happy for her.

Miracle, Angie, Nimble, Shantala, Angel, and all those I might forget, I give you a big hug and I hope to see you around soon!

Kissies,

Sophie

[sabi]

Hi girls,
How are ya'? Successfully completed my first 4 hour appt w/doc & nurses.
Tests & cultures. So far so good. Just waiting for AF to coordinate cycles w/donor. Maybe this could happen in June? What do you think? Any quest's re: 1st appt- ask away...fresh in my mind. Ok.... 3 months of shots.... not prepared for that bologna. My 4 year wedding anniversary is tomorrow- Good things are going to happen CAROLYN!! A BFP for you my dear! Anything new girls? Busy w/school. Went back to teaching full time & it's been crazy- a blessing in disguise really. Miss u all! Sending lots pf PMA & babydust your way!!!!!!!!!!!

Smiles!
Sabi

[Miracle08]

Hi ya ladies...

I have been in a rut this week. I am stressed. I feel like I am being pulled in 20 different directions. My friend, Jennifer, she wants me to come over again on Saturday. it is over an hour away, I was gone all last weekend, i have homework, i would like to spend some time with hubby and babies...housework is behind....UUUGGGHH!!! Then I feel bad. I know I should go and visit with her again, she needs me. I think I am going to ask the DR to up my anxiety meds...LOL I wish I could learn how to deal with stress....I am always a stress ball. Anyway.......

Carolyn...what is going on with you honey? Have you had your beta? Sending GIGANTIC POSITIVE VIBES your way love!!!

Sophie, hey! Your friend had her baby? WOW!!! What did she name him? it is a boy right? I am so glad she had a easy labor. Hmmmm...maybe your little one is just fine where he is! I know with Nims her little one didnt want to come out. But, he will come when he is good and ready! how are Toulouse and Daria? Still loving the treadmill? Did you guys get DH allergies straightened out?

Hi Lee...enjoying the weather I see. good for you.

Sabi, hi there. HAPPY ANNIVERSARY LOVEY!!!! So glad your appointment went smoothly. Yes, you work will help take some things off of your mind. So you wont end up batty...like Lee!!! LOL Just kidding Lee!!!

[Miracle08]

MISS ANGEL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! COME OUT AND PLAY!!!! Where are you????

we miss you............

[Sara30]

Hey You!!!

What do you mean batty????????? I like being batty!!!!!! Do you know being batty is great it means I don't have to worry about things!!!! You are funny gave me a laugh there Traci!!
I am sorry you are feeling so crappy, sometimes everyone and everything wants us all at one time and we can only be pulled so many different ways. I guess you will have to try and prioritise what you can do right now and then work out a schedule so you can fit everyone and everything in. Sometimes life wants and expects too much of us, but then sometimes thats when we perform the best, I hope you can work everything out so it suits you and everyone else. Perhaps you need to go and learn how to deal with your stress? A good bottle of wine always helps me!!! or go and have a maasage or good sex is a good stress buster so I hear!!
My diary is my bible I put everything in there so I can timekeep all the different things I do, and I try my hardest to stick to it otherwise I would be all over the place with all my commitments and also makes it not look so bad because everything has a time allocated. Sounds a bit military I know but it works for me coz I do so many different things. Just some ideas??

Sophie congratulations to your friend, soon he will have a little playmate as well!! How about that a ready made friend on the way, he will be so lucky!! Hope you are enjoying your last few days of rest or are you being really busy??

Sabi 3 months of shots Arrrrgggghhhhhh how come??? HAPPY ANNIVERSARY for tommorrow are you doing anything special?? So how long till AF any idea, you are now on your way!!!!!! June, hmm spring baby?? Glad your enjoying the teaching.

Well myself and a couple of others have just put together a huge training package for foster carers and it looks like it might be sellable if we polish it up a bit, where to start???? I have no idea about these things I was dreaming last night about being on dragons den and asking for money and they just laughed me outa there!!! We need to research cost of delivering training, research to see if there is a market for it, get someone in who has IT skills to polish it up, and probably another 101 things I have not even thought of! OMG loads of work but could be really worth it. Just when I sit back and think hmmmm what to do next there it is a new idea!!!! So will keep you posted as to whether it comes to anything or not?!?
ANNNNNNNNNNNNND I put in our adoption application today so we will wait and see, information meeting is in July so will have a bit more of an idea then how long it will take us, its sooooooooooooooooooo exciting.

Ok will run along now and put together the next workbook for our package as teaching it on monday and I need to get it copied and sorted, oh yeah I forgot to mention Traci with all my military precision in organising my life lots of things still tend to get left to the last minute so maybe my advice is not so good really!!

Hello to Angie, Angel, Carolyn, fingers,legs toes,arms and anything else I can cross is crossed for you, Shantala, Rachel, Nicky, Nims and anyone I have missed,

Love to you all
Lee xxxxx

[PMApsy]

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhh, some action at last! Hi guys!

Sabi,
So glad the apt went well!!! Wow, four hours, what a trooper! Happy anniversary to you and hubby-bubby! :D:D:D June sounds very exciting, but 3 months of shots sounds like a LOT, especially given that you'll use a donor! wow!!!

Miracle,
Hello there sweetheart! So sorry to hear you're feeling overwhelmed at the moment... You said you wish you'd learn how to deal with stress, well a cheap option could be buying Feeling Good by David Burns. The book seems a bit dry at first look, but believe me it's incredibly helpful and to the point. Another cheap and amazing choice would be "Awakening self-esteem" by Nezu and Nezu. Much shorter (192 pages), amazing tools, appropriate tone, I LOVED that book. Another free option would be to permanently kick the "I must" and "I should" tyranny out of your life... and your vocabulary!!!!! Hey, sweetie, don't lose your perspective! You've been friends for 18 years with that amazing woman, you really think this would all crumble down if you can't visit her this weekend?

and to answer your questions: My friend named her son Louis-Xavier (the pronunciation is much different in French of course, and it's a pretty name). I don't mind my own son taking his time and come out when he's ready, I just hope I won't have to be induced. I had false labor for some 45 minutes yesterday, but it went away. My friend had false labor a month before she delivered, so... Toulouse and Daria are doing well; TOulouse is learning to walk on the treadmill and he's making a lot of progress, so proud of my little boy! And Daria still LOVES her treadmill sessions, she does it twice a day at quite a fast pace (trot) and she really loves it. To give you an idea, she'll stay on the treadmill even if I'm right in front of her peeling veggies in the kitchen (you can guess that she's usually laying right on my feet, waiting for something to fall off the counter!) They are both MUCH calmer during the day, the difference is absolutely amazing. Right now they're lying next to me in the office, snoozing. I think we're well on our way to find the right balance for them.

Lee,
OMG OMG OMG! You're putting in your adoption application today?!?!? HOW EXCITING!!!! :D:D:D Oh gosh, I can't wait to hear more after your information session in June!!! How long do you think it might take before things start to move? Oh I'm happy for you girlie! *HUGS* What a great idea to turn your fostering experience into something lucrative! Wow! Totally understand your feeling (you'll see why below), some of us just have the business bug, some don't! I wish you good luck with that amazing project dearest! And to answer your question, it's a little bit of both. I try to finish one project per day, some days are more productive than others. The insomnia can be quite bad. Last night I was up from about 2am to 4am or so, and then some idiot called at 8:30am while I was trying to catch up some sleep and had me running naked all around the house trying to find the second phone because the one I had upstairs was dead...! ANd didn't even bother to leave a message on the answering machine! Anyway. So there you go. The days are great and relaxing and productive, but the nights are sometimes great, sometimes difficult. I would much prefer to stay up for a few hours a night because I'm taking care of my fussy son rather than because I had to pee for the 100th time and couldn't fall asleep again because the hormones are messing with my sleep cycles!

Carolyn,
Thinking of you sweetheart... beta tomorrow, keeping everything crossed. HUGS

Well, I had quite a shock this morning. Talked to a colleague and friend of mine who works at the same hospital. Some of you might remember when I talked about the difficult work context in which we are. It got even worse this past few weeks; one colleague gave her resignation at the beginning of the month, another is considering leaving for the diabetes position as soon as it opens (she was hired in Febuary!!!!!). Well, my colleague told me this morning that she's handing her resignation letter this afternoon to our boss. It's huge. We all saw it coming, but to actually take that step, it's huge. I admire her, because it's a gutsy move. She's not leaving to another position in another place, she's leaving because of her beliefs and because the situation at work just isn't acceptable anymore. I'm convinced that she'll have no trouble finding another job; she has a lot of PR up her sleeve.

But her resignation brought back a project that we talked about two years ago. I'm not ready to jump back into the financial instability of private practice yet, but we talked about starting our own firm. Instead of just starting a private practice, we would specialize and advertise for a specific field: either oncology or health psychology in general. Her PR skills and knack for handling the business stuff would be invaluable, and my own skills (organisation, management) would complete them very well. Without each other I doubt that we would be able to start something like this, but as a team we could actually succeed!

So I brainstormed big time this morning and emailed her my ideas. There is no cancer clinic in Montreal, and it could be interesting to start one. I've brainstormed the market, the location, the services we might offer, I've also calculated how many patients we would have to see each year to have the same salary we're making now at the hospital (which of course would be our minimum target...), and so on.

My plan is to stay at the hospital and help her start the firm as her associate, but pro bono. I absolutely don't mind giving my time for a project like this. Given that she's the one without a job, I would let her cash in the first profits and, when the clinic runs well and we start building a reputation and a waiting list, then I would hand in my resignation too and take care of that waiting list. In the meantime, I would get training in medical hypnosis (I was going to do it anyway) and keep running my research projects to work on some new techniques I'm testing. All this would be useful for the firm anyway. It will just be quite hard to work in that new context... I don't know who'll replace those people, but now I'm the only young cancer psychologist left who really thinks clinical-research work...

The biggest challenge is money, as always. If our market is cancer patients, for example, it's a reality that while they need our services, those people will be on leave at work because they're sick, and so they will be careful with their money. Plus insurance companies usually give only 400$-500$ a year, if you're well insured, for private sessions with a psychologist. That's about 4-5 sessions... so it would be great to do a proper market study to help us shape that project. BUT at the same time it's also an advantage because, given that those people don't work because of their health status, they can all book their apts during the day, and it means we wouldn't be forced to work evenings (a hard reality of private practice... hate it).

Anyway, if some of you have business or marketing skills, don't hesitate! I think it's an exciting project, and it's worth taking the time to shape it well before we give it a tangible try.

Okay guys, enough babbling! Take care!

Sophie xxox

[lara312]

Good morning ladies just a quickie

Carolyn good luck today with your beta hope this is the 1 i will be keeping everything crossed for you

lots of love Rachel x x

[wishfull27]

morning ladies - thanks for all your thoughts off for Beta in bit - but done another HPT and still negative so gut feeling is its a BFN although still holding out that glimmer of hope

Dropped DH off at airport he has gone to saudi with work for 3 weeks so that has just added to my ood of impending gloom - he so did not want to go but the money is too good to miss and as he works for himself can't say no.

Have asked nurse to ring him though with results so won't know officially until later tonight when he picks up message when he is off the plane - bout 8pm UK time.

love to ya all xxx

[Angel505]

Oh Carolyn, I really do hope that the beta proves your gut feeling wrong. I know what you mean though, until you get the call, it doesn't seem final and we hold on to some hope. Then again there are so many women who have got a negative on hpt, only to get a positive beta. So fingers crossed that you get some pleasant news tonight.