Surrogate is my option

[beth_brown]

Great to your post. We are looking for surrogacy too, and we hear BioTexCom in Ukraine is supposed to be good. They offer various packages and offer 100% guarantee. If anyone here could share your experience with them please.

[JoeNoah]

Hello, I am also for an advice here. I want to become a mother as soon as possible. As my in-laws are now forcing me for having a baby. I am 40 years old. I am trying for a baby right after one year of my marriage. The journey is full of pain and hardships. My husband is with me on this journey. He loves children too. I have conceived 3 times but with no end results. Since then I am trying. Surrogacy is my option also. It is a light in the darkness for me. Please Help me too.

[Ghost]

Many centers offer gestational surrogacy, where the intended parents embryo is transferred to the uterus of a gestational carrier. The success rates are high, similar to egg donor cycles, around 70-80% live birth per transfer at top clinics.

Classic surrogacy, where the birth mother is also the biological mother undergoing an IUI cycle, is not recommended. The success rates are low and the legal issues can be enormous. In one case in England, the surrogate kept the baby and then sued the intended parents to pay her child support, and she won. Avoid classic surrogacy.

[Rita10]

Hi, margirl. Your story is so touchy. I’m really sorry you had to go through such a difficult situation. There’s nothing more awful than losing a baby. It’s a huge stress for a woman. You have to be very strong to be over it. You know, you are not alone with your infertility problem. A lot of women around the world are suffering from this problem. I’m very glad that surrogacy is getting so popular. It’s a powerful solution for infertile couples. Unfortunately, the price is still too high. But, as for me, it is worth paying.
I can say from my experience that the surrogate isn’t allowed to keep the baby. First of all you will sign an agreement with the reproduction center. That is why you will need a lawyer. Secondly, this baby will be genetically related to your husband and you. The surrogate won’t be its biological mother. In the birth certificate you will be mentioned as biological parents.
My sister’s son was born by the surrogate. This is the reason why I know this information. I spent a lot of time with her during her surrogacy process. To say truth, she was very scared. I just can’t imagine her feelings. She had to deal with the woman, who was carrying her beby boy. That’s so unfair. She was crying when she saw her son for the first time. I will never forget her face. That day she became a mom.
By the way, if you choose all inclusive package in the reproduction center you will get a 100% result. They guarantee that you will go home with your baby. So, I wish you good luck.

[JennyKL2017]

Hello. I'm very sorry that you had to go through all those difficulties. Miscarriage is the worst thing, which can happen to a woman. You are very brave and I'm sure you will be fine. I'm glad that you decided to do something to become parents. A lot of women just give up.
Have you been thinking of adoption? My first son was adopted and I don't regret. He is a great kid.
Surrogacy is also a great idea. Our twin boys are 8 months old and they were born by the surrogate. There's nothing to be afraid of. Choose a good reproduction center and sign the contract. In this case the surrogate won't be able to keep the baby. You will be protected by the law.

[claudia]

Hey dear. Don't be afraid. Surrogacy is a good option to go for. All you need to do is find the right clinic. In clinics, they have policies. They have professional surrogate mothers. It's their jobs. They can't refuse to handover the baby to you. They are getting paid for this.

[erikapaul]

Hi there, how are you. Well you can say that it's really devastating time. It really is hard. My friend bear the same that is why I know that. Well it is going to happen for you just try. All other variants are there you'll get pregnant soon.

[Ghost]

The OP has not posted here in a long time.

Good general advice:

Avoid surrogacy unless you truly need it. Surrogacy is by far the most expensive route. Surrogacy also has potential legal nightmares.

[Savannah874]

It was awful to read about your traumatic experience. It’s very sad that you had to go through so much. However somethings are destined to happen. Where there is a will there is a way. You can consult your doctor regarding a fertility specialist. They can guide you regarding your options. As far as surrogacy is concerned, if you go to proper Clinic for surrogacy then you don’t have to worry about this matter. They go through a proper legal procedures. It’s the clinics responsibility to provide adequate services to the clients.

[tatebrown]

Hello!I was excited rather than apprehensive to start IVF. I was in with a chance that our dream may come true. I remember the day, early visits to the clinic for blood tests. I remember the injections and pelvic pain that my stimulated ovaries gave me. I remember the ultrasounds, the egg retrieval, Bill’s short but sweet contribution and finally being given the go-ahead for an embryo transfer.I remember the fear that the IVF cycle wasn’t going to work. What if, after all this invested hope, pain and money we remained childless? My IVF cycle had produced two embryos. One was implanted, the other frozen. I consoled myself with the thought that if this first embryo didn’t lead to a successful pregnancy at least we had another chance.Everyone experiencing infertility has heard it, but no one has been helped by it.Hope for best and positive.

[Ghost]

The OP has not posted here in 16 months.

Good general advice:

Avoid surrogacy unless you truly need it. Surrogacy is by far the most expensive route. Surrogacy also has potential legal nightmares.

[brookeliam]

Hello beautiful and a brave lady! I read you whole story and i am amaze that how much bravel you cover this.I can understand What you are feeling but it's a time to salute to you!.Hats off you and your loving husband.I am really inspired by your story and major thing your role is superb and excellent.I never met this type of lady ever in my life.Ok come back to your desired question that you have a right to be a mother.After too much trouble it's your right to collect some happiness for yourself apart from life.I think most of the surrogate mother don't do like that but if you are feeling fear about surrogates then you should do your surrogacy through a lawfull clinic who will make an agreement between you and your surrogactes before going to surrogacy.Then there will be no one who can can challenge your agreement.At last i will again say that your post inspired me a lot that a woman should never lose hope ever in her life.Thank you.A lot of love and prayers are for you....

[Anna-WWW]

A lot of women are afraid of surrogacy, it’s true. But it can be 100% safe if you choose a good reproduction center. You will sign an agreement and the surrogate won’t be able to keep the baby. She won’t be allowed to do it. I think you should stop reading all those horror stories. A lot of couples use surrogacy successfully nowadays. It is a great chance to become parents. So, why not to use this chance.
I also faced infertility 3 years ago. I visited a lot of doctors. I’ve gone through lots of tests and examinations. I had no chance to conceive. That’s why we agreed to use the help of the surrogate. I was also scared. Just like you are at the moment. But everything was fine. I met our surrogate a couple of times and I liked her. She was a great girl. I’m glad that we did it because now we have our son.
Have you already chosen the clinic? I recommend you to visit a couple of medical centers. Listen to different doctors’ opinions. And after that choose the one you like.
In case if your eggs are still valid, the baby born will be genetically related to your husband and you. As for me it is the most important. This is the reason why we didn’t want to adopt. We wanted to raise our biological baby. And surrogacy gave us this chance.
Whatever you decide I wish you good luck. I’m sure you will find the solution. You seem to be a great woman.

[Adiizo-la]

If a woman is afraid of pregnancy. It should prevent sex.

[pagerelvia33]

Hello, I am here to get some advice and help if you let me. I am married and have amazing husband. Our love story started a great while ago. We were incredibly happy till the crisis moment in our life. Unfortunately, we had a car accident that changed everything. In the aftermath of it I had severe kidney injury and it was removed...Nevertheless, I got accustomed to a new life and started to think that everything was okay and almost nothing had changed. Yeah, my life was full of love, happiness and laughter again. Over time we decided to become parents. I was sure that we would be perfect parents. Even no doubts. My doctor assured us that we had chances to conceive and baby was going to be fine. Partially he was right. A little bit later I got pregnant. I cannot even explain what I've felt. But those emotions lasted not so long as it was desired... I had miscarriage at 6 weeks. My poor baby didn't even manage to draw the first breath in our world. To say that I felt horrible and my soul was torn asunder equals nothing. That was so awful. Perhaps the most difficult thing in the world to experience is desiderium. Unbelievably hard...I am sure that it was the time when my husband and I experienced the bitterest and the most depressive feelings ever. Right after our, let me say, recovery, we met with our doctor who only added fuel to the fire. It has emerged that I am hardly able to carry a baby by myself. Great news as usual! Anyway, our desire to become parents is unstoppable. So we started thinking about other variants. Nowadays, there are a lot of various reproductive clinics, so maybe someone can advise us what to do. And there is one more thing, I am a bit afraid of surrogate mother refusal to give my baby to me. There were such cases, right? How can I be sure that it wouldn't happen to me too? Thanks in advance.

If you've signed an agreement then everything should be fine. This was the major reason why we did not choose independent surrogacy in the first place. It is nice to have someone who takes care of everything and will assure that the surrogate won't do anything harmful to the baby.
We have signed with WCOB agency by the way. As one of the best options through all of the Ukrainian clinics.