Hi Jjj,
How are you? I saw your post and thought I'd drop you a note.
I don't know if you have the same problem as me, but I have had problems with my tubes for the last couple of years, and after having tests done to find out the cause, it was discovered that they were absolutely crap and not even remotely useful. I too was told about having them removed, but I wasn't really given much information from my hospital.
I did most of my own research over the internet, but I found out that due to my tubal problems and polycistic ovaries, It was nearly 100% definite that I would have to undergo IVF treatment in one form or another. I found out that if you did have any tubal fluid of any kind, there is a big chance that any fertilized eggs wont attach, or develope properly.
I found it really hard to take it all in, and I haven't even been offered any forms of councelling or anything. I have been driving my dp well mad with my moods and I just feel like I've lost a part of myself that made me me...
I took the decision to have both of my tubes removed.
It was quite hard at first, but the more I thought about it I figured that they were both totally useless and making me more ill and contributing negatively to my mental state. I went on the waiting list at my local hospital, and after 9 months of waiting I went and had them done...
That was 8 weeks ago and I am still recovering. I went back to work early because of financial commitments, but I am considering taking further time out to make myself 100% again.
Even though I do feel a bit crap, I know that with out them, they can't affect my health and make me any worse... which can only be a good thing... right?... I am waiting for my partner to have a few tests done, and we are hoping to start our first cycle of ivf next year... I'm hoping that the law changes first, as we cant afford the treatment at the moment and can't get no funding either...
I didn't intend this too go on for long or to drag on... but al I really wanted to say was, I can't imagine how it must be for you... I'm dreading starting the first treatment, never mind having any failures.... I don't think that I would be able to cope with that, the way I've been feeling lately.
I know that you feel that you're tubes are part of you - I thought the same, but I do feel that the deciding factor for me was the increased chance of a pregnancy or the continued pain, discomfort, and potential failure of treatment... the thought of a failure is for me far outweighing of keeping a spare part that no longer benefits me....
At the end of the day, the choice is obviously your's to make, but I hope I helped a little in helping you make up your mind.
Take Care, and hope all goes well for you.
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