Hello old friends!! There is life after ivf!! we have just passed panel (on the 21st) and are approved to adopt from China, so this time next year we will either be out there or on our way back with a fab parcel!!!
Champagne was out, I can tell you. what a relief!!!
Beckym
passed adoption panel!!!!!
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sophiejane
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Hi Becky, congrats how exciting. I hope the wait doesn't drag too long. I would be really gratfeul to know how long it all took. I am on a ivf cycle at the moment (and know I shouldn't be thinking the worst but I am) and I have decided that this will be my last treatment. I also want to adopt a baby (from abroad becuase being a social worker I know how difficult it is to adopt babies from this country). Would be sooo gratfeul to hear you adoption story so far.
Thanks
from Sophie-J
Thanks
from Sophie-J
Me 33 dp 30
me tubal damage
ist ivf Feb04 -ive
fet July04 -ive
ivf Nov04 +ive twins, but sadly one twin died at 10 weeks gestation. Freya born 21st July 2005. She's amazing!
me tubal damage
ist ivf Feb04 -ive
fet July04 -ive
ivf Nov04 +ive twins, but sadly one twin died at 10 weeks gestation. Freya born 21st July 2005. She's amazing!
i am so very 
happy for you.
i know after allof our home studies and all of the paper work is was such a huge releif that that part was done.
i know how much i love our adopted children.
may you hold your child in your arms soon
love becky
happy for you. i know after allof our home studies and all of the paper work is was such a huge releif that that part was done.
i know how much i love our adopted children.
may you hold your child in your arms soon
love becky
we werent blessed with our babies to raise here but we our blessed with our grandaughter
and all of our many adopted and foster children that touch our lives
and i am glad to add that our 6th grandchild will be born this spring!!!!
and all of our many adopted and foster children that touch our lives
and i am glad to add that our 6th grandchild will be born this spring!!!!
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NickyMolly
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Becky M,
That is brilliant news - and it seem so soon. How long did the adoption process take?? I am doing my 5th IVF in January, but getting pretty fed up with it. I will be 40 in July, and am keen to get on with life! You know how one puts things on hold all the time etc... Maddening thing is I got a +ve but then m/c (I got a low positive at the same time as you....) I keep getting told that it should be possible to get pregnant, and keep holding out for it - but at the same time I am desperate to adopt aswell.
Oh do tell us more,
Nicky
That is brilliant news - and it seem so soon. How long did the adoption process take?? I am doing my 5th IVF in January, but getting pretty fed up with it. I will be 40 in July, and am keen to get on with life! You know how one puts things on hold all the time etc... Maddening thing is I got a +ve but then m/c (I got a low positive at the same time as you....) I keep getting told that it should be possible to get pregnant, and keep holding out for it - but at the same time I am desperate to adopt aswell.
Oh do tell us more,
Nicky
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sharoninsomerset
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Becky,
I have just come onto the site after a long time away - couldn't really bring myself back here until now. Anyway, 5 ivf attempts and then told ovarian reserve low so we are now considering adoption.
So pleased to see that you have passed the panel - life must seem exciting again? I would love to hear from you to let me (and everyone else know) how to go about the process of adopting abroad. If you could let us know of the agency you used and some of the steps it would be really helpful.
I wish you all the very best of luck over the next year.
Love
Sx
I have just come onto the site after a long time away - couldn't really bring myself back here until now. Anyway, 5 ivf attempts and then told ovarian reserve low so we are now considering adoption.
So pleased to see that you have passed the panel - life must seem exciting again? I would love to hear from you to let me (and everyone else know) how to go about the process of adopting abroad. If you could let us know of the agency you used and some of the steps it would be really helpful.
I wish you all the very best of luck over the next year.
Love
Sx
me 38 DH 47 - TTC - 3.5 years - tubal infertility
4 failed IVF cycles - 1 abandoned
Found to have raised FSH when going for 5th cycle
Now looking at adoption
Let the new adventure start!
Sx
4 failed IVF cycles - 1 abandoned
Found to have raised FSH when going for 5th cycle
Now looking at adoption
Let the new adventure start!
Sx
Just popped in to say hi and hope you have some more further news for us . well done for getting this far . I am having a very long break from last April till Jan 06 and might have another last go I will be 39 then and Cam 49 so that has to be it .
Sharon in Somerset great to see you are still around
Looking forward to a meet up one day !!!
Trace x
Sharon in Somerset great to see you are still around
Looking forward to a meet up one day !!!
Trace x
1st cycle own eggs Neg
2nd cycle own eggs Neg
3rd cycle cousins eggs Neg
4th cycle unknown donor eggs Neg
Going to have sisters eggs Feb 06
NEVER GIVE UP!
2nd cycle own eggs Neg
3rd cycle cousins eggs Neg
4th cycle unknown donor eggs Neg
Going to have sisters eggs Feb 06
NEVER GIVE UP!
hello old friends! this is our update. Our documents are just about to be sent out to China - they went to the Chinese Embassy last night and hopefully should be out in China by the middle of February. Then it will be a 6 month wait until we get the referral picture - sometime in mid-August I expect. I'm already so excited and writing out lots of lists though haven't dared to buy anything yet!! just so superstitious after last year.
For those of you interested in timescales - we contacted our local authority intercountry adoption team at the start of Jan last year, having suffered my m/c in Dec. We did our consultation day in Feb up in London and then did three prep days in April, May also up in London. We started our homestudy in May with most of the visits (8 in total) in May, June and July and then went to panel in Sept. Our papers then went up to whitehall and have been there ever since (apart from when we had to notarise them down here mid-way through) and are likely to be sent to China in the next 2-4 weeks. Then there will be a 6-7 month wait until referral - we will get a picture and a medical report. She is likely to be about a year old (born already - strange thought!!). Then we shall travel out to China about 6 weeks later. The adoption community is tremendously supportive. We already have so many friends through it (one of whom is now one of my best friends and we got in touch with each other on this site initially!!!) She is adopting domestically and going to panel next week.
If you are interested in overseas adoption for more info you can join Oasis which is an international support group for parents of adopted children from overseas - their webpage is www.adoptionoverseas.org. (I am the membership secretary for this organisation!) Those of you interested in adopting domestically the website is www.adoptionuk.org.uk. for the support group. One point though as someone has already raised, it is quite difficult to adopt babies in the UK. People I know have done it but the wait seems to be longer than adopting from China. Good luck to those of you embarking on this trip. It's certainly a rollercoaster but there's lots of support on the way. I have been invited into so many people's houses last year to meet their kids and it is amazing how many people come out of the woodwork when you say you are adopting to say "Oh, we have adopted kids!" 4 in my school alone.
I will keep you all posted on our progress.
Becky
For those of you interested in timescales - we contacted our local authority intercountry adoption team at the start of Jan last year, having suffered my m/c in Dec. We did our consultation day in Feb up in London and then did three prep days in April, May also up in London. We started our homestudy in May with most of the visits (8 in total) in May, June and July and then went to panel in Sept. Our papers then went up to whitehall and have been there ever since (apart from when we had to notarise them down here mid-way through) and are likely to be sent to China in the next 2-4 weeks. Then there will be a 6-7 month wait until referral - we will get a picture and a medical report. She is likely to be about a year old (born already - strange thought!!). Then we shall travel out to China about 6 weeks later. The adoption community is tremendously supportive. We already have so many friends through it (one of whom is now one of my best friends and we got in touch with each other on this site initially!!!) She is adopting domestically and going to panel next week.
If you are interested in overseas adoption for more info you can join Oasis which is an international support group for parents of adopted children from overseas - their webpage is www.adoptionoverseas.org. (I am the membership secretary for this organisation!) Those of you interested in adopting domestically the website is www.adoptionuk.org.uk. for the support group. One point though as someone has already raised, it is quite difficult to adopt babies in the UK. People I know have done it but the wait seems to be longer than adopting from China. Good luck to those of you embarking on this trip. It's certainly a rollercoaster but there's lots of support on the way. I have been invited into so many people's houses last year to meet their kids and it is amazing how many people come out of the woodwork when you say you are adopting to say "Oh, we have adopted kids!" 4 in my school alone.
I will keep you all posted on our progress.
Becky
Becky
I am so pleased for you. You must be so excited. I hope the time flies and you get to have your beautiful daughter home with you in no time. What a journey you have had. Congratulations!!
It is lovely to hear from you and I can sense the excitement in your post.
I have had ages off the boards to get my head straight. I have just lost another baby at 8 weeks and I am so unhappy inside myself. I was planning on coming back and posting on the pregnant after IVF boards once the scan showed all was well but it was terrible news for us so I don't know what I am going to do. It's still early days so who knows.
Keep us informed on your progress - I shall be looking in anticipation to hear the next installment.
Love Dagny xkx
I am so pleased for you. You must be so excited. I hope the time flies and you get to have your beautiful daughter home with you in no time. What a journey you have had. Congratulations!!
It is lovely to hear from you and I can sense the excitement in your post.
I have had ages off the boards to get my head straight. I have just lost another baby at 8 weeks and I am so unhappy inside myself. I was planning on coming back and posting on the pregnant after IVF boards once the scan showed all was well but it was terrible news for us so I don't know what I am going to do. It's still early days so who knows.
Keep us informed on your progress - I shall be looking in anticipation to hear the next installment.
Love Dagny xkx
Me 38 DH 40
1st 2nd & 4th IVF/ICSI -ve
3rd +ve DD Katelyn born @ 24wks & sadly died
5th +ve m/c 9wks
6th +ve Twins Sadly DD Leah stillborn @20wks and DS Kieran born @22wks but sadly died too
7th +ve - DD Chloë Mae born @38wks our precious miracle
1st 2nd & 4th IVF/ICSI -ve
3rd +ve DD Katelyn born @ 24wks & sadly died
5th +ve m/c 9wks
6th +ve Twins Sadly DD Leah stillborn @20wks and DS Kieran born @22wks but sadly died too
7th +ve - DD Chloë Mae born @38wks our precious miracle
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jill dickens
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Hi Becky(M),
What a great message I will send a PM love Jill x
What a great message I will send a PM love Jill x
TTC nearly 9 years
Raised FSH
natural pg M/C, 12 months on Clomid +ve M/C
1st Egg Donor IVF Cycle Oct 04 +ve M/C my dream is over
Nov 04 Began the adoption journey
Nov 06 our beautiful baby girl has come home we were matched at just over 12 months
Raised FSH
natural pg M/C, 12 months on Clomid +ve M/C
1st Egg Donor IVF Cycle Oct 04 +ve M/C my dream is over
Nov 04 Began the adoption journey
Nov 06 our beautiful baby girl has come home we were matched at just over 12 months
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jill dickens
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Hi Dagny,
I am so sorry to read your post, you must be wondering what has hit you at the moment. Do take care and write if you need a chat love Jill x
I am so sorry to read your post, you must be wondering what has hit you at the moment. Do take care and write if you need a chat love Jill x
TTC nearly 9 years
Raised FSH
natural pg M/C, 12 months on Clomid +ve M/C
1st Egg Donor IVF Cycle Oct 04 +ve M/C my dream is over
Nov 04 Began the adoption journey
Nov 06 our beautiful baby girl has come home we were matched at just over 12 months
Raised FSH
natural pg M/C, 12 months on Clomid +ve M/C
1st Egg Donor IVF Cycle Oct 04 +ve M/C my dream is over
Nov 04 Began the adoption journey
Nov 06 our beautiful baby girl has come home we were matched at just over 12 months
just wanted to let you know that i am always here if you ever want to vent or ask any questions..
your friend becky
your friend becky
we werent blessed with our babies to raise here but we our blessed with our grandaughter
and all of our many adopted and foster children that touch our lives
and i am glad to add that our 6th grandchild will be born this spring!!!!
and all of our many adopted and foster children that touch our lives
and i am glad to add that our 6th grandchild will be born this spring!!!!
Hi Becky,
Well not long now till you will hopefully have news of a special little girl
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Our news, we went to panel for approval on 4th March and 2 weeks ago our Sw contacted us about a 7.5 month old little boy he came round with the form E and we are now due to meet his Sw's on 4th May. Hope to goto matching panel soon after that and bring our little man home soon.
Keep me posted on you news.
mandyxxx
Well not long now till you will hopefully have news of a special little girl
.Our news, we went to panel for approval on 4th March and 2 weeks ago our Sw contacted us about a 7.5 month old little boy
he came round with the form E and we are now due to meet his Sw's on 4th May. Hope to goto matching panel soon after that and bring our little man home soon. Keep me posted on you news.
mandyxxx