Divinagracia - Test Mon 16 May

ogr1 · Post by **ogr1** » Mon May 16, 2005 5:22 am

wishing you ++++++++++++++

good for you in not testing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11

Sand · Post by **Sand** » Mon May 16, 2005 7:03 am

Good luck today !!!!

Sandra x

andy354 · Post by **andy354** » Mon May 16, 2005 9:51 am

Hi,

This is Divina's hubby - Bad news I am afraid it was negative

(This was attempt 4)

Thanks for all the support

we have a follow up appointment tomorrow and will let you know the outcome.

Cheers

Andy

Sand · Post by **Sand** » Mon May 16, 2005 9:54 am

Divina and Andy ... So sorry this wasn't your turn. I hope you manage to work out a way forward at your consult tomorrow .. Let us know.

Sandra x

eskavon · Post by **eskavon** » Mon May 16, 2005 10:00 am

Divinia and Andy
So sorry to hear your news, take care of yourselves
Eskavon x

hlloyd · Post by **hlloyd** » Mon May 16, 2005 10:51 am

Davina and Andy

So sorry to hear your results. Take care of each other over the next few days. I hope the appointment tomorrow provides some answers.

Heather

NickiMark · Post by **NickiMark** » Mon May 16, 2005 11:25 am

I am so sorry Davina & andy.
Hugs out to you both.

divinagracia · Post by **divinagracia** » Mon May 16, 2005 1:16 pm

I was really glad i checked myself 2 days before due coz if i didnt do it i think i'm gonna go crazy. First time ever i didnt get any period after all this time..and im still hanging on not having any sign of menstrual period. Me n DH were fully expecting that this is it but 2 days ago i have a strange feeling that tells me to stop hoping n checked myself b4 i get hurt n i did n i got a negative result. I was really upset n even kept it from my DH coz i dun want him to get hurt. He was out when i done it but when he came back he knows theres sumthing going on so i told him what i did n he went mad. He said i jinx it n i shouldnt done it. I was really hurt feeling that I done sumthing stupid but all i did is just giving myself a little a very tiny wake up call.I end up crying all night but at least thats all gone then. The next day I'm back to normal but not xpecting too much as we used too.We even started talking bout kiddies bedroom n etc. Whoever thought??? I didnt get any period which is really unusual.We really thought GOD finally give us our gift. Eventhough it was negative by that time, i didnt lose hope.Still xcited in a way scared too but we should always face the truth no matter what.This morning at 2am im dying for piss but i was holding it till 6am just to make sure it will come to the day n hoping it will help more but unfortunately the result still the same "negative". Why is it so hard to turn that thing _ to + ? I was upset as usual but at least im not as hurt coz all the pain n sorrow are released 2 days ago. If i havent done it n xpect all this time, i think i end up in the hosp. I'm still heartbroken. I feel guilty that i cant even provide the basic to my DH. I feel abandon by god, my embryo n etc.I'm just glad my DH is there for me if not duno what to do.I'm foreign,No families to run to aside from my in laws n I would like to thank all of u guys for being so supportive. I'm so glad I FOUND this site where i can release my emotion.THANK YOU ONCE AGAIN. Were having a follow up appt. with my MD tom. n i'll keep in touch.

LittleP · Post by **LittleP** » Mon May 16, 2005 1:18 pm

Divinia and Andy

I am so sorry about your news - I won't waffle, just know that I am here for you.

Big hugs

Little P

taylorjools · Post by **taylorjools** » Mon May 16, 2005 1:21 pm

Oohh Divinia

you know girl, it's good to let it all out, it's good to cry and not let the emotions overwhelm you. Your dh sounds like he loves you very much and I sure it a wish of both of you to have babies, but I am sure he doesn't love you any less because of the problems. We are finding it has brought us closer together than ever.

Good luck with your appointment sweeties, and do let us know what is happening next

Love bigJ

Emily Rose · Post by **Emily Rose** » Mon May 16, 2005 4:10 pm

Divinia,

I am so sorry. You and Andy take care of yourselves and know we are thinking of you.

Emily

randa2006 · Post by **randa2006** » Mon May 16, 2005 6:02 pm

Divina and Andy,
My heart goes out to you both. I know what you mean about wanting to provide the basic fulfillment of children to your spouse. Please remember, there are still options you haven't utilized (donor eggs, surrogacy, adoption - not to mention you can still do more IVF).
I'm sorry if this isn't much comfort at this time.
You deserve what every couple deserves, to be able to have babies.
God Bless You and Give You Peace.

me · Post by me » Mon May 16, 2005 8:30 pm

Sorry to read about your result it is such an emtional thing the whole treatment let alone when we get negs.
Many hugs for you and DH
Kerry xx

andy354 · Post by **andy354** » Tue May 17, 2005 5:15 pm

Hi Sand, Et al

Had the follow up consultation today at Holly House in Buckhurst Hill and they were also sad to see the failure on this occassion. They urged us to continue as they feel we are 'Close' to a child and despite this being attempt 4, in reality it's merely attempt 1 as my wife had TB of the lower stomach/womb during the first 3 attempts and this would have caused her to never fall pregnant.

He explained Dr Beers clinic in London and outlined some of the procedures that this clinic can do which Holly House cannot. Although one of the procedures Dr Beer offers could be in excess of £10,000 so that particular treatment is a no-go for us. We intend to call Dr Beer's clinic tomorrow and see what avenues they can guide us down and then we shall make a decision on where to go from there. One thing that is for sure is that my wife is gonna take a month off from the treatment and she definately wants to start again in 1 month

Incidentally we were told by Holly House that the government have brought a ruling in that if your a couple (woman under 38 ) and have had 3 failed IVF attempts privately and have no children then the NHS will allow for 3 IVF attempts. We have an appointment with our GP tomorrow as if this is true then it's great news

My wife feels she has let me down and says that she is no good to me as she cannot give me a child so far through IVF But you know she could not be further from the truth. Having seen her go through the continued injections, legs on stirrups, egg collections, scans and all the emotional turmoil this has put her through it has made me love her even more (if that is possible) I am so proud of her for what she has done, she is so brave and I have learnt so much from her having seen the way she handles things during all this. As the husband giving your sample

and putting the money up (even though I am skint!!) is as far as I am concerned the easy bit. What your wife does is a million times more difficult and any husbands reading this post remember what your wife is going through and always appreciate her for what she is doing and most of all be PROUD

Anyway enough of my waffling on - Thanks once again to everyone for their continued support and I am in no doubt my Wife shall be back on here posting during her next IVF round very soon

Andy :X

NickiMark · Post by **NickiMark** » Tue May 17, 2005 5:21 pm

Thanks for your update Andy, I hope then next time works out for you and your Dw.
I must say it's lovely to see a guy here, we dont see many around these waters!!!
I hope that you get that ivf free on the nhs that would be great, a relief off your shoulders! I was under the impression that ivf was free depending on your post-code.
Where are you in the uk?

Divinagracia - Test Mon 16 May

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