QUESTION

princess · Post by **princess** » Mon May 30, 2005 4:16 pm

I know this is kind of personal but I was wondering how many of you went back to having sex when you found out your were expecting.
We abstained from 2 days before ET. And found out on Sat that we are expecting but both DH and I are afraid of having sex right now.
Any answers will help.
Thanks
Love
Joy

k · Post by k » Mon May 30, 2005 4:44 pm

Hi Joy

Me and DH are exactly the same! In fact we have abstained since approx 2 weeks before ET, mainly because my ovaries were sore and bloated from the drugs. They are still sore and bloated and I just still feel fragile.
Maybe its worse during IVF treatments because as well as recovering from the drugs, you dont want to risk anything even though you might be told its safe. Im glad its not just us!
Love Kim.

Kel · Post by **Kel** » Mon May 30, 2005 5:11 pm

Hi Joy!

Some clinics do seem to vary, but ours said to wait until 12 weeks. I am happy with that as it's all so nerve racking and would rather not risk anything now. DH has raised eyebrows about that though!!!

Good luck!
Love Kel x

princess · Post by **princess** » Mon May 30, 2005 5:17 pm

Wow 12 weeks.
They told us we just had to wait until the pregnancy test and after that we were fine. I still have to go to the clinic a few more times but I also need to make an appointment with my obgyn. I think we will wait to see what the obgyn says.
Kim no it's defenitly not just you, we are both very edgy. We want to but both are scared, I didn't know DH was scared until last night when I brought it up. That made me feel better because I know it's not just me. Ya know?
Love
Joy

Alette · Post by **Alette** » Tue May 31, 2005 8:42 am

we had sex after 10 weeks? something like that.
but I am still not really in the mood.
I read that around 4 months we, pregnant women, will get nymphomanic!
my husband is looking forward!!

DebraP · Post by **DebraP** » Tue May 31, 2005 11:39 am

We've always abstained during tmt (the scans + meds turn me right off anyway) and with our one pg we waited until 12 weeks. I was WAY too scared to risk anything, even though many people don't wait this long.

Alette, the books are right. I don't know that it's anything biological but the middle trimester is usually relaxed and happy. The first trimester has passed safely but it's still before tummies get too bulky and uncomfortable. For us at least, the middle trimester was very active!

Debra

Mil · Post by **Mil** » Tue May 31, 2005 12:49 pm

princess:
My clinic told us we had to wait until pregnancy test. Once we got our positive results the dr said it would be fine to return to normal sexual activity. We have had sex 2 or 3 times since then and then past weekend afterward I THINK I saw a little blood so now I am really scared. I think I will probably wait now until 12 weeks. It's better to be safe than sorry!
Good luck!
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Susie · Post by **Susie** » Tue May 31, 2005 9:22 pm

You'll probably all die of shock here, but my last pregnancy both me and DH were too scared to have sex at all, so we didnt. We did everything else but no penetration, I was too scared after having baby to so I waited til baby was 3 months old (Ihad been torn pretty bad) poor DH went without sex for at least 12 months.

I dont know this time though. We were allowed to do it after pg test but still darent.
My DH is as just as scared as I am!
Susie

DebraP · Post by **DebraP** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 7:21 am

Susie, I don't think you're that unusual. After DD was born (via emergency c-section) I couldn't even think of sex. I think it was 10 weeks or so until we tried again.

I also remember my BIL refused to have sex with his wife from the day they tested. He couldn't get the picture out of his mind and so that was that for 8.5 months!

Debra

Alette · Post by **Alette** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 8:48 am

yes, you hear it more often, no sex for the total lenght of the pregnancy.

just do what makes you feel the most comfortable....

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