Under 30 gals

NickiMark · Post by **NickiMark** » Wed Oct 12, 2005 5:17 pm

Glad u r ok smita!!

Denise,Your Af must due pretty soon, and your cycle of iui will soon be starting? Good Luck, I am right behind ya x

Everyone else ok? Hugs all round x x

Lavender1 · Post by **Lavender1** » Wed Oct 12, 2005 6:12 pm

Hi everyone...good thread!

I hit 28 last month

Had a brief look back to the days I thought I'd be married with 2 children by now!!!

Still, I have my DF and about to start our first ICSI cycle (going for Prostap injection on 22nd!). The docs all seem very positive. Our 'wedding fund' has become our 'baby fund' as we found out we were unable to have children naturally one month after we got engaged. We are totally committed and have been together for 5 years now. At the end of the day, we decided that we wouldn't mind walking down the isle with zimmer frames, but would rather not change nappies with them given the choice! Who knows how many attempts it will take to have children. We couldn't afford to do both, so chose baby/ies! I think that when the time comes it will be really lovely to share our special day with him/her/them and for him/her/them to be a part of it all.

I've had the whole 'friends falling pregnant at the drop of the hat thing' too. It is hard, but I'm trying to gather and store all the information ready for when it's our turn!

Has anyone had the dismissive thing from docs...." oh, you're only young. You've got loads of time"? I know this is true, but our feelings are just as strong as the older ones surely?! Also DF is 36, but this never seems to be a factor. Just the fact that I'm young. Mind you, it is nice to keep being told that I'm young when all I can see is 30 approaching!!!!!!

Keep it up you all...

xxx

DeniseM · Post by **DeniseM** » Wed Oct 12, 2005 7:02 pm

Hi Lavendar,

Welcome to our thread. Good luck with your upcoming tmt. Where abouts are you from?

Nicki,

Any day now. Usually a 30 day cycle but last month gave me a little surprise at 26.

Smita, Joy, Olivia

How are our mommies doing?

Chanteq...

I find Scottish men interesting too, I think its the accent.

Souris,

Hope you are well.

Lumi, I haven't heard from you in awhile... were you starting tmt again soon?

NickiMark · Post by **NickiMark** » Wed Oct 12, 2005 8:07 pm

Welcome aboard lavender x x Ive just hit 30 last week!!! Yikes!!! people tell me i am still a baby!!!

I dont think so!!!

Anyway good luck x x

naine · Post by **naine** » Thu Oct 13, 2005 7:46 am

Hiya

I don't know if this is the right place to post, but I am feeling really down. I have tubal damage & was told years ago that I would probably need IVF.

This i was fine with, but recently I have stoped using contraception & I think that even though we are being put forward for IVF just now, in the back of my mind I thought "you are all wrong, & I will conceive naturally".

Well my period arrived & I think it has all just hit me. DH is being very supportive, but I don't think he fully understands what I'm feeling. I know a lot of you have been trying for years, & that's partly why I feel a bit of a fraud talking about this, but I just don't know what to do to lift me out of this.

I have one more test to do before I am put on the IVF list & we are hoping to go private next year. I'm sorry if I have posted in the wrong place. I'm just looking for someone to understand...

Thanks Naine.

Lavender1 · Post by **Lavender1** » Thu Oct 13, 2005 12:19 pm

Hello

Denise & Nicki - Thanks for being so welcoming! I reckon it's all how you feel Nicki...I'm still 17 you know...no, really!

Hi Naine - You've definitely come to the right place. I'm new here myself and have already found it such a support knowing that there are other people on this rollercoaster ride, and doing ok! It seems you can ask anyone anything which is going to be really handy for me because I've always got ditsy questions that I'd be too shy to ask anyone else about!!

My DF and I got told about a year ago that we were unable to have children. Our GP is THE worst

and said "oh well, if there's no sperm you're not going to get pregnant...are you." What a cow. We then had to really fight to get referred to a specialist but now seem to be on the right track.

Obviously it's been really up and down, but because it was my DF that was diagnosed with azoospermia, he was distraught. I felt like I couldn't get close to him for a while and he felt that he'd let me and my family/his family etc down! Love him! Anyway, what I suppose I'm trying to say Naine, is that although it feels like you're in a really dark place right now, it will get better. You are lucky to have a supportive partner - you'll need each other! Don't forget...where there's a will, there's a way (albeit an extra special way for us lot here)!

I know I've not been any use to you, but someone here will be I'm sure. Sending LOL
xxxx

Smita · Post by **Smita** » Thu Oct 13, 2005 3:01 pm

Lavender,
welcome!!Your GP sounds like a pig!Dont they make many sensitive docs these days?
Naine,
Welcome too!
Abt tubal damage- I didnt know until this Jan(05) that my tubes were damaged beyond redemption..I've been married almost 8 years now and it was always, "you're too young" it'll happen, then endless cycles of clomid,(what was so pleasurable an act became an ordeal) then the 4 IUI's..hoping hoping..

I was actually glad when they told me the problem- I think knowledge is power- now that you know you need IVF, you can take this in your stride and move closer to your dream..I'm afraid if you need IVF, then you do- but its a solution- not a problem by itself... Yes, its an emotional roller-coaster, but the whole ttc process is..
You've come to the right place- you can ask anything, we'll answer if we know- So hang in there..And you're not a fraud, please don't think so- I think all of us want to get pregnant without help deep inside..
Good Luck.. You'll get your bundle of joy soon!

Hope the rest of you pals are ok..

smita

naine · Post by **naine** » Thu Oct 13, 2005 3:34 pm

Hiya Lavender, Thank you for your kind words & I think your doctor is a completly insensitive cow... You have helped me

Just knowing that there are people who are in the same situation as us & are willing to listen to our moans means a great deal.

Smita. Thank you to for your kind words. I know that I am fortunate in some ways that I haven't had to go through what a lot of you have, i.e. years of trying & hoping. I have been lucky in a sense to find out at the beginning of our journey.

Although I've kind of known for years that I would probably need IVF, I must have put it to the back of my mind until we decided to go for it & now I think it has just hit me like a ton of bricks.

I'm sure that with the help you guys give through your experiences & knowledge, I will come out the other side & hopefully this time next year we will have our bundle of joy. lol & baby dust to all. Naine

Smita · Post by **Smita** » Fri Oct 14, 2005 5:44 am

Naine,
Sending you hugs and good wishes..
So when are you planning to start?

smita

naine · Post by **naine** » Fri Oct 14, 2005 8:04 am

Hiya Smita,

We are planning to start early next year. Our waiting list for private is 6 months. I have to have a HSG done first (it's when they pass a dye through your tubes, to see if there are blockages & where they are).

Most of my damage is that the tenticle things at the end of your tubes which catch the egg as it's released are mostly stuck down to other bits

, but I think they want to see if there are any further blockages in my tubes also.

Once that is done I will go on the waiting list. We hope that if we get on the waiting list by February then our first cycle should be August 06.

What about you?

Loads of baby dust to you too.

Naine

NickiMark · Post by **NickiMark** » Sat Oct 15, 2005 8:15 pm

Naine! Hiya! Welcome! I just know u'll be fine, the hsg is nothing to worry about.... 6 months to wait seems a long while if u r private....
when we were told we had to go private as nhs couldn't help we went straight in basically.....It always amazes me that so many clinics across England and Scotland are so different.....
Well, all the best with your waiting and the hsg...... you never know it might come round quicker.... But yes, this is probably a good place to start posting.....Me, I post all over.... I am one of the regulars and post daily so I am sure u'll see me often ok.
Hugs to ya x x

Lavender, my dear. your dh has azoospermia too, so does mine. It's always great to hear of others in exactly the same boat, we have been ttc 4 yrs. Are using donor sperm just about to start 3rd IUI.
Are you using donor too? Icsi as a first go, was that ur choice or what was recomended at your clinic?
It does hit the men hard doesn't it? But some how they are stronger, they manage it better, I cry for him often. He's sad about it but i would say only actually cried twice in the last 4 years of trying.... Ive cried One thousand, Four hundred and Fifty two time!! Enough tears to flood the UK!!
But girls r different, i can post away here all night and feel better and supported but dh doesn't get it??

Anyway, I am rambling on...... Wish u all the best dear x x

Souris, How r u dear?

Sara, where r u? you r laying low? Youyr tmt starts in Nov have you start meds yet?

Last but not least a Big Hello to Denise, Lumi, Joy, Olivia, Smita & Jag

Lavender1 · Post by **Lavender1** » Sun Oct 16, 2005 9:20 am

Hi ya

NickiMark - You're right - it's always good to find someone else in the same boat. We did think we'd be going down the donor route, but when DF had his PESA done, they were really positive, so we're going for it! Having my Prostap injection on Sat...can't wait! DF is now worrying about all that I will have to go through - bless him! The fridge is full of meds ready to go!

Just been looking at the Oct cycle thread and am a bit concerned about the whole 'hairy' issue!!!

Oh well...whatever it takes!

xxx

souris · Post by **souris** » Sun Oct 16, 2005 10:08 am

Lavender, Naine Welcome!

Sorry I have not posted here for a little while, but I don't feel so good...
Starting my 2nd ICSI around 20th of January and I just cant wait. I am so impatient but also very apprehensive (not for the tmt ) but for the outcome...

I only had one go until now and i think we have enough sperm left for only one more try... (well I guess so because we have only one vial...)
And I know that my DH will not go through another sperm retrieval, it took me long enough to decide him to have a baby!

I am also trying to quit smoking (I did one month before the last tmt, but when the result came back neg, I started again... Yes very clever!)
and I just can't... I am trying hard but it is not good enough and I feel guilty because I have to do everything to be healthy and fit!

Sorry for the moanings... Hope everyone is doing great, and thans to all for being here and supportive

lots of love
souris[/quote]

NickiMark · Post by **NickiMark** » Sun Oct 16, 2005 1:27 pm

Souris. sorry u are not so positive right now. January will soon be here!
It's only 10 weeks to Xmas so thats only 14 weeks to 2oth Jan.

Are on in the same boat as me and lavender? Azoospermia?
Both u and lavender are lucky that dh went through with the retival op's my dh wont do it...hence the donor route we are taking but we are both happy so thats all that matters really.
Souris, would u consider donor sperm if you have none left?

Lavender? when are you cycling? Now?? when's EC? ET?

Hope youre having a great week-end. Sun is shining here, just having a lovely lazy sunday!!

souris · Post by **souris** » Sun Oct 16, 2005 3:08 pm

Hi NickiMark,
thanks for your email, It so weird as one day I will be feeling great and positive and the other i will feel so down. It's just it seems such a long time since my first ICSI (April)... I guess I can blame my mood swings onto AF coming ...Always disappointed even if I know that getting pregnant naturally is impossible!

No azoospermia for my DH but an old vasectomy... The sperm donation is a no no for DH, and for me, I would prefer adoption if next cycle does not work... I am 200% for adoption, Dh is not sure about it but not against. I really would like to adopt (would be my dream for a 2nd child) but I really dont want to miss out the pregnancy... I want to know how it's like carrying a baby and giving birth!
Anyway, I am not giving up yet! As you said Jan will come quickly (I count the days!)

Good luck for your next IUI! Finger crossed!

Lavender, about the hair issue... Well it's not that bad (for me only few black hairs at places where I did not have any before)
I am a twizers expert now! And hopefully it will be all worth it!

lots of love to all the girls
Souris
xxx

Under 30 gals

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