My heart is broken

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ttc3yrs
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My heart is broken

Post by ttc3yrs »

Hello everybody,

Haven't been here for a while. When the last time I was here, my heart was full of joy and thankfullness, I was 7 weeks pregnant! I had the EC on 9/19, ET on 9/22, on 10/3, I got the good news! My first scan went well too, we saw a strong heartbeat. It had been rather rough weeks for me since then to dealing with morning sickness, but still I was very happy. I had been wishing for this BB for almost 4 years.

At the 12 weeks check up, they told me that they couldn't find the heart beat, and it was measured only 8 weeks. My heart was frozen at that moment. I didn't know why this would happen to me. Everything felt so well, I still got the morning sickness, I didn't have cramping or spoting or anything abnormal. I couldn't believe it. I had them done the ultrasound twice, and went to see my fertility doctor to do another ultrasound, hoping that they made a mistake. But, there were no mistakes, my BB died.

I had D&C the next day.

Sorry, I can't do this right now. I'll be back later.

May
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BecP
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Post by BecP »

Oh darling, I am so so sorry.
Thinking of you lots. I can't imagine how you're feeling and can't think of any words to make it better. Look after yourself and take time to grieve
xxxxxx
Bec
My age 33, DH 32
Nat pg & m/c @ 8.5 wks Jan 05
IVF Nov 05 m/c @ 5 wks
3 x IUI 2006 all -ve
IVF Oct 06... BFP! A little boy due 6 July!

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Post by AMck »

May, so sorry to read your post. I really can't imagine how you must be feeling. Please take good care of yourself and give yourself time to come to terms with this.

Bye for now
Anna x
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Post by pauline69 »

May

I'm so very sorry for your loss. :cry: Take time to grieve. We are all here for you.

Love Pauline x
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Post by eskavon »

May, your story is heartbreaking but we're all here to support you.
Take time and take care
xx
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Post by ogr1 »

i am so so sorrry.
what you are going threw is one of the most hardest and heart breaking to go threw.
the best thing that i can say is that you will here alot of different things from people that will make you want to yell at them.
but try and remember that they care and they just dont know better..
you can add your baby to the babies loved and lost thread.
this has helkped me
we werent blessed with our babies to raise here but we our blessed with our grandaughter
and all of our many adopted and foster children that touch our lives
and i am glad to add that our 6th grandchild will be born this spring!!!!
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Post by Jen1d »

:cry: May, i'm so sorry to hear your news.

Try to stay strong, your time will come one day

Love Jen x
me 38 dh 38, ttc for 6yrs,
HSG - Tubes Damaged
Bilateral Salpingectomy, 16th Aug 06,
Hysteroscopy - 30th Oct 07
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Post by LittleP »

May

I am so very sorry - you take all the time in the world. We will be here for you when you're ready for some friendly support.

Nothing I can say will help, but know that you're in my thoughts and prayers.

Take care

Little P
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Post by Terri2 »

I am so so sorry May. That is terrible news. You don't deserve to go through this, nature is so cruel.
TTC 2 years
Me 33 DH 44
Clomid 6 months - no success
HyCoSy in October - diagnosed PCOS
April 2006 Menopur - worked 3rd month with acupuncture
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Post by taylorjools »

May

my heart goes out to you and your partner. Just know that we are all here for you when you are ready.

come and rant, and let it all out, whatever..

here is a big big {{{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}}

bigJ
POF+autoimmune+dh antibodies,5.05 DIVF IM M/c 7.5 wks, DIVF+TESE at ISIDA - son 08/06
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Post by Inhale, Exhale »

So very sorry for your loss. ......

Steph
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Post by maud66 »

So so sorry to hear your news - words aren't particularly helpful for you right now, but you've got support on the board if you need it ...

x
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Post by lolajones »

Oh May I'm so sorry to hear your news. Its just so unfair and cruel.
ivf ladies should have some sort of special immunity from tragedies such as this - haven't we all gone through enough in the first place?
I'm sending you all of my love and best wishes. Take care and everyone is here for you when you need us.

Love, Lola
xx
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2 ivf, 3 fets - 2 bfn, 3 bfp (1 ectopic, 2 m/c @ 9wks and 12 wks)
3rd fresh ivf - bfp, fingers crossed
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Post by smokeroni »

I am so sorry for your loss. Please take the time to heal. There really is no words to make you feel any better.

Just know we are thinking of you,
Pam
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7 DIUI / IVF's -ve
1 DIUI +ve DS 19 months old
DIUI cancelled for March, hopefully a go ahead in April
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Post by DebraP »

May, that really is the worst news. I'm so sorry.

When you're ready, come back and talk some more. Many of us have broken hearts that are still not whole.

Debra
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Game Over.
Dates: Aug 02 - May 06
Tries: 5 fresh + 4 frozen.
Results: 1 daughter, 2 m/c, 1 ectopic.
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