SDtrying wrote:Hi wantamiracle-wantamiraclebaby wrote:Yellow--when you had your daughter did you do a 3dt? I think you did. b/c I had a post regarding a poll asking if anyone did a 3dt and what were there results. I had to change my name b/c tooooooo many snoopers on here trying to keep track of you. LOL not the folks on the boards, but people I KNOW.
I just wanted to say that I'm really glad you joined the group. I am hoping and praying for you to get your BFP this cycle. I really don't know how I will deal with a BFN myself this cycle (my 1st IVF). Ya know, so many people believe in PMA and I'm just not a believer in that stuff. I believe that most of the world is out of our hands and beyond our control. If we had control, we'd all have babies by now.
I know that no one like to talk about the negative stuff hear for fear of the negative energy, but the reality is that some of us won't get our BFP's this month. Although it's naturally uncomfortable, its good for us to bring up and talk about these things. It will be hard for the group to deal with the sad results, but I hope we can turn any of the sad results into an opportunity to help others going through the same thing.
If I don't get the result I want this month, I'm really glad that there are women like you who will encourage me to pick my head up and try again! You and others who've been trying repeatedly are inspirational- thank you.
SDTrying:
Hey, It is definitely hard and during a cycle or even at the start of a cycle, you don't want to hear anything negative bc your mind you start thinking negatively. I did my best to think positive thoughts during my first ivf cycle, but sometimes it was difficult b/c the "what if" kept coming to mind and I knew If i was stronger in my faith, that "what if" question wouldn't have been there. But we all have to go through something to get to something. For others it may take one try for others it may take several, but it doesn't make that person any more blessed than the person that is taking several tries. We learn as we go through things. I look at this as a challenge and a walk with God. I'm a Christian and a spiritual person, sometimes it is hard to encourage others when you don't feel encourage yourself...but during that time when you're at your weakest God is at his strongest. I';ve been through too much heartache and I still keep getting up, but at times I feel stronger than I was before and other times I feel like is this ever going to work. Anyway, basically you're right, things can happen, it isn't always peaches and cream, but if we keep the faith regardless of the outcome, you HAVE accomplished something. It is how you deal with it, that makes you victorious. I dont' think I handled my bfn very well, but you know I came out that depression stage quickly, but still have that thought, why not me?
sorry this was so long
I am so jealous. We didn't see any snow around here all winter. Maybe a couple flurries here and there, but not enough to make a difference. We are in the middle of a drought, we can use any kind of precip around here!
