Feb 2009 Moms to Be

[Dakota]

Hi all. I am so tired today I can barley focus. DH stained the floor in our closet yesterday and we "thought" by having it upstairs with fans and such going that by me being downstairs it wouldnt be a big deal. It was so potent yesterday in the whole house I got a horrible head ache and still have it. Its knocking me on my butt!!

I had some pretty intense growing pains Fri night and Sat, at least I pray they are growing pains. Grow little one grow

The doppler- all the things I've read says that you can hear it as soon as 8-12 weeks, but definatly by 14 weeks. I have friends that heard around nine weeks who were pretty thin, chunky friends around 13 weeks. It also depends on where the baby is that day.

Jude please take care of yourself and make sure the Dr see's you and you feel better.

Sorry for no more posting, I am really tired!

[Neffi211]

So I went for my first OB appt today. We did an exam, cervix looked good. She said that I didn't need to do any bw since that basically all I have done for the last six months! Then I asked to hear the HB. She went and got the doppler and seriously had it on my belly for like 2 mintues! I was about the lose it, she kept saying oh there it is wait.....then she finally found it. I was good for about 3-4 seconds then we lost it. She said that it was the doppler and she hates using that one! I was like......well get a different one casue I am about the break down! Anyway, we did hear it, it was faint, she said she wasn't directly over it, but she said faint doesn't matter, either it is there or it's not. Anyway, I go back in 4 weeks. But she said that I can come in when ever I want to hear the HB! I am feeling good, I just wish it would have been easy to hear the HB, but I guess it's there, so I shouldn't worry. Ok I have to go back to work. How was everyone else's day?

[Babysoft]

Hi Neffi,

Glad you had your first ob appt; sorry about the doppler! It's nothing to worry about...I went to the dr. today as well...hoping to get an u/s to see if I could tell the baby sex, my dr. didn't want to do the u/s instead we did the doppler. The dopplers suck if you ask me...most of the time I hear my own pulse and not the baby hb....so because she couldn't hear it we did the u/s and of course there is was 164bpm. I'm so consumed with finding out if its a boy/girl..I amnot even getting as excited over the hb. I kind of feel like okay I know the hb is going to be there...I want to see some private parts...asap!

Well i hope everyone is doing well!

[Dakota]

babysoft- did they try to look for little parts or did they just tell you its too soon? I am curious because my book says that the parts are developed by 12 weeks so I am hoping at my u/s on Thurs maybe we can see parts.
I hope the dopplers are not too crappy, I just ordered one and it was delievered at home today, I am going to try it out as soon as I get home.

Neffi- Glad all went well for your OB apt. When you go back in 4 weeks will you have an u/s then?

Is it Thurs yet????

[Neffi211]

Dakota-- no I won't have an u/s until 19-20 wks, they wont do it before then. They say that it is too unreliable, and my friend is a u/s tech and she tole me to wait til 20 weeks too! Anyway no I wont get one until end of sept. I am just happy to know there is a HB, I am curious to know the sex, but I can wait another 7 weeks as long as I know the baby is okay.....did you get your doppler? Does it work?

Babysoft...they couldn't find your HB witht he doppler? How far along are you again? Everyone needs a ticker! Its to hard to remember everyone well al least you got your u/s. So i guess they couldnt see what it was! That stinks, when do you go back?

[Babysoft]

Hi Dakota - I don't mean crappy like you should order one, but honestly with all the reviews I've read everyone says how hard it is to fin the heartbeat. It's usually when you are further along your can find it with no problem! I say they are crappy because I so expect for the dr. just to be able to put it to my stomach and I hear it right away...most of the time it's not like that. They have to search and honestly more often than not I hear my pulse more than I hear the babies h/b. But please don't misunderstand...I don't want to discourage you...honestly my comment was more of an encouragement...are babies are well so we should focus now on the things that will keep us on egg shells...lol like the sex and who is our babies favor us or our dh's? Please use your doppler a lot, but just don't be alarmed if you dont find the hb right away because those dopplers work better when we are further along.


Hello Neffi...I do have a tickler! I can see it when I post..so hopefully you can too..I am 13wks1day. No they couldn't get the heartbeat with the doppler...I'm not surprised because everytime I've went to hear the heartbeat...it's taken them several minutes to find it. I see the heart beating away as soon as they begin the u/s....I never worry about not hearing it through the doppler. The person I purchased my home from is also an ob and she says she doesn't like the dopplers either...even the higher end devices have a hard time picking up the babies h/b..if you are a thin person it's a lot easier, but in general the further along you are the better it is to catch. Also I don't know if it's just me...but I hate when they push down on my stomach trying to hear the heartbeat...lol I keep thinking my baby is like hey what the heck is going on up there!

I wish I could say I don't mind waiting, but honestly I'm gotten over all my worries about any problems..another reason why I took my break. Because we read so many sad stories and have been through so much it sometimes turns us into nervous wrecks. I don't ever think about the negative...I try my hardest to only keep positive thoughts! So when I say I don't get exciting about the h/b what I really mean is...I already know the baby is okay...so now I'll move on to more exciting thngs to think about...like I love talking to my baby.....but it's strange cause I have both names picked out and I'd prefer to use one of them...I know my bean is tired hearing "hey little one"..lol! See these crazy thought are much more exciting..lol!! Not to mention I'm always telling my bean...hey you ....don't stretch mommys tummy too much...she doesn't like the thought of stretch marks!

[Neffi211]

Babysoft-- I can see your tickler! I dont know what I am talking about! I wish I felt like I knew the baby was fine, I dont mean to sound like you dont care. Anyway, I'm glad you got your u/s. Oh I know......if you look in the review, the ticklers dont come up! Anyway, hope all is well.

[Dakota]

babysoft- I didnt take anything wrong by what you say, plus I like all opinions, good and bad. It takes alot to offend me
Well, anyway, you were right...crappy doppler!! Couldnt hear the heartbeat. I didnt try very long. DH was furious!!!! He doesnt want me using it. I told him I ordered it, but I dont think, as always, he was listening to me.
I keep telling myself that I am not going to freak out because I didnt hear it. I didnt spend alot of time on it and I know that more so than often you dont hear it.
I'm like you though, I wish we can go to sleep and wake up and its Feb. I so bad want to meet this baby!! I am not a patient person, I hate waiting 12 mins for cookies in the oven, waiting 9 months for a baby...wow!!
Well, Thurs is my u/s, I hope I can hang in there.

Neffi-alot of places are real strict about waiting 20 weeks now. My friend was trying to schedule her gender u/s apt and her 20 week her dh is going to be out of town, her week change is on a Sat, so she tried to schedule it for 19w6d and they wouldnt let her!!! So she has to wait until 21 weeks!! I have the same Dr, so its going to be interesting not getting any more u/s after thurs until 20 weeks. I have a feeling I am going to end up paying and going and having the 3d done. I am a major worry wart!!

Boy, I dont know what hit me after trying the doppler, but I got so sick!!!! I havent been that sick in a long time. DH said that was baby payback for trying the doppler on him, he is in there punching on my intestines.

I really, really wish I could have heard the heartbeat

Hope everyone is doing well.

Where is everyone???

[ftg]

I'm sorry you didn't hear the HB on the doppler Dakota! Crap! Well, if you change a position and slowly try to move along the width from hip to hip, would that work? Hang in there, and I know you'll find it.

How are you ladies doing on getting maternity clothes? Did the Old Navy's, Targets, or Gap's where you live have selections? We also have Kohl's here, and that's where I got my 50% off shorts! I'm good for now, but will be looking for winter clothes in a few months. I don't have a lot of them, but feel I've got basics covered. I recently found out a friend of mine here is only about 2.5-3 wks behind me! They got pregnant on their first try, and I am so happy for them. She is 1 of 10 children!

Hope you're all doing well. It has finally cooled off in WA = not in the 90's!

[Babysoft]

Hi Neffi, I know it's hard to think positive thoughts, because we've been through so much! For me I think it was not surfing for a while...when I first found out I was preggors...I looked on the net all day long...all I did was compare my feelings, measurements, thought, lmp to everything I was reading...it drove me crazy. I kept going to the bathroom praying everytime I wiped myself there wouldn't be blood. I finally realized that if I didn't start thining positive and realizing getting preggors was the biggest hurdle, I'd drive myself and my baby insane. Yes of course we think of all the what ifs...but honestly isnt life just a big what if...if someone would have told me it would take me 8 years of ttc to get pregnant I wouldnt have believed it. I thought it would be as easy as pie...I feel like I've let infertility take so much of my happiness away thus far...I refuse to let it steal my joy of being preggors. So yes I think positive thoughts...I pray for a healthy baby and I'm confident the baby will be okay. Through-out my entire experience of infertility...I listen to tons of doctors tell me I wouldn't concieve my eggs were of too poor of quality, I've had clinics turn me away and I've been told to start thinking about using donors eggs, I had to sign a waiver before I was to do my ivf saying that althought I'd probably only produce one egg...I still wanted to move forward. Through-out it all the one thing I never did..what doubt that i'd have my baby....all the odds were stacked against me but I didn't give up! And when I went to my first u/s after I found out I was pregnant....the dr. said..congrats..you know you are a brave women...no matter how it looked you always remained optimistic! I know I'm babbling...but try to remember this..when you think of anything negative that could happen...smother it with all of good of whats going on.

Dakota..I'm so sorry to hear about your doppler. Don't give up on it...like I said everything I've read (like online reviews and dr's suggestions) they all say they work much better during the later stages of pregnancy. But play with it...as long as it won't drive you crazy....you should just keep playing with it and you'll probably hear it...maybe just need to mess around with it for a while! I'm not surprised at the 20 wk u/s wait...I've been hearing that alot I made an appt with a 3d place, at first I made it for 16 weeks, but then I really read the website and realize that most of the nice pictures were of 28-32 weeks. I felt like screaming. I had gotten myself so exciting...lol order the deluxe package and then had to cange my appt for another month and 1/2 later. I'm thinking that maybe the wait has something to do with insurance...just a guess, but once I called a new ob to see when I could get an u/s done and she stated I'd have to wait 20 wks because they not only check for the sex, but they heck for problems at that time as well and insurance would only pay for one u/s. Seemed crazy, but whatever! And Yes...I still wish I could go to sleep and wake up in Feb...except honestly I'm so exciting about the 3d u/s.....not sure if any of you have looked at any clinics online, but I did and I cried..it was so beautiful..I couldn't believe it was so clear! One had a baby sucking his thumb...I was amazed!! Now I could fall asleep right after that, but I would like to be awake for that period. And meet the baby...wow....just saying it melts my heart! Maybe it's just me but everyday...I say I can't wait to smell my baby....sometimes when I talked to her/him...I say my little smell good! I love the way babies smell! Okay I'm getting excited and I have way too long to go for that...for now I'll just worry myself to death about whether or not it's a girl or boy!


Hello FTG, congrats on your purchase.....lol nothing like a sale! I haven't started to purchase maternity clothes yet...to be quite honest...I'm not working so I mostly stay in the house....I've been wearing my summer sun dresses, so I'm trying to hold off at least until the weather starts to break. Plus honestly I can' t find anything I like....I'm a very small women...I normally wear a size 2-4, and sine I've been preggors I've lost some weight...I wasn't blessed with a "woman's" body...lol with the exception of my chest....I'm really straight up and down. So while I know it may seem weird I'm hoping I can gain some hips and curves from this pregnancy...wouldn't that be nice!! I've looked on ebay for some clothes, but really haven't found anything I'm excited about! Honestly I've been trying to shop more for the baby than myself...I figured I'll sweat pants and tee-shirt it out for as long as possible!

I don't know how anyone else feels about this, but the Gap has an organic/all natural section for babies! It's great...I bought my baby's first outfit...a cream set...something to bring the baby home in...it's adorable and now I'm obsessed...lol part of the reason why I need to find out immediately...I need to finish shopping! Gap also has the best sales as well...so you can't go wrong there.

Okay ladies I'm rambling...I hope everyone is doing great...feeling great..thining positive thoughts!

[children]

Hi everyone,

I went to see my ob's nurse today to ask for listening to the baby's heart beat. I am fighting with a bad cold and totally congested at the moment. last night, I suddenly felt that my baby stopped growing and could not sleep. Today at the work, I could not do much so I decided to walk over my ob's office which is 3 min from my office. Fortunately, the nurse was very nice, not only she checked the hb, which was strong, she also taught me how to tell the difference between my pulse and the baby's hb, since I told her that I just ordered a rental doppler. Anyway, 9 month pg simply is too looooooooog to wait! In my last pg, I had my friend's stethoscope, but it was useless for monitoring baby's hb. I hope the doppler works. Will let you know how it goes.

Take care and thanks for listening!

[Dakota]

ftg- Wow, sounds like you got a great deal!! I got a bunch of 3/4 length shirts at Motherhood on clearance for $5-$10 each. I bought 5. I also bought a cute black turtleneck shirt at Old Navy on clearance for $3!!! I havent gotten much deals on pants, but a pair at Ann Taylor that were reg price $74, I got for $27. Still pricey, but good for Ann Taylor. I have been wearing my baby doll style shirts now, but a few are starting not to "flow" as easy, I am not ready to wear the maternity shirts yet. I need a pair of shorts but I dont want to spend any money on them because I know that I will only be wearing them for a month or two. So far every where I have looked the cheapest I have found is $15, I'll have to check out Khols this weekend!! So far I have spent about $170 and that is on 7 shirts, 2 capri, 3 pants & 1 pair of jeans. Once fall gets here I want to add a few sweaters, Gap has these long sleve stretch shirts that I want, a pair of work out pants and a long jean skirt. My goal is not to spend over $250 total. Think I can do it

[Dakota]

To add to my shopping, I just got back from JCP. I went looking for shorts since I have a $10 gift card, couldnt find any shorts, but found a long sleve stretch maternity t-shirt for $1.48!!!!!! Can you believe that!?!?!?! I was thirlled!!

[ftg]

Wow Dakota-I'm going to have to say you are now the queen of shopping! I thought I was good looking for the maternity bargains, but you take the cake!

Children-I hope you feel better today. I know too that this test in patience to see our little one will be a good one for me!

Babysoft-Good for you you can hold out for a while on the maternity clothes. I"m still in normal shirts + maternity shirts, but I did wait til the last minute (our 12 wk scan) to get into pants. I was busting out of the last ones that had strings!

[angram]

Dakota - You're cracking me up with your outstanding shopping deals, that's awesome! Sucks about the doppler, but keep on a tryin', they just aren't that reliable this early on (per my OB), so just keep the PMA and know your little one is busy growing!

children - That was so nice of your nurse to get you in and then to do a quick training session on your pulse vs the heartbeat And you're right, 9 months seems like an eternity. Could you imagine being an elephant, they're pregnant between 21-23 months!! You think we're crazy now

Babysoft - Too funny that you've already bought a going home gift There's no way I can start shopping for clothes now, we'd be totaly broke by time the baby arrived. I'm going to hold off as long as I can, which may only be another month or two

ftg - I hear ya on the heat! I'm in Austin,Texas and we've had over 100 degrees for 3 months now. The streak finally broke and it was in the 80's yesterday and today, it's awesome.

Neffi - I'm sorry you had such a hard time hearing the HB, but my OB says it's pretty normal to have a harder time with the dopplers. We've been so spoiled up to this point with ultrasounds, that it seems a bit archaic to use these little tools at a doctors office. Try to keep positive and know everything is good to go.

We had our 2nd OB appointment today, but first time to meet the new OB. I really liked her and she took as much time as we needed to answer questions, etc. We got to hear the HB, sounded like a jackrabbit..crazy fast She told us that everything looks and sounds great, so we should enjoy the pregnancy and feel comfortable at this stage. We have our last RE appt and u/s next Monday and then our first tri screening u/s on Tuesday, but no more after that until week 20. We told the OB we were pretty freaky and felt the need to constantly hear or see something, so she said if we get really freaked out to just call and she'll get us in for an u/s. I'm going to hold off and see if them just using the doppler will be enough, we'll see. Other than that, I'm feeling pretty good these days. M/S has diminished quite a bit, just dealing with feeling crappy after I eat a major meal, which is so much better. Belly seems to be growing by the day, but she said I'm on target and measuring around 12 weeks. I hope everyone else is doing well and I pray that these next few months fly by for us! Not too fast though, I'm kinda freaked out about delivering and then actually having a little baby with absolutely no formal training before hand