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Most stupid comments from outsiders?
Hi Heather .... Sorry to hear you've had such a rough time and I can't imagine the level of heartache you've been through. Just to say that we're all always here when you need to chat.
Sandra x
Sandra x
Me 41 yrs old - dh 49 yrs old. ttc 110 yrs.
1st cycle (ICSI)....Mar 04 -ve.
2nd cycle (ICSI)....Aug 04 -ve.
3rd cycle FET........May 05 -ve.
4th cycle (ICSI) ... Feb 06 -ve
5th cycle FET ..... Feb/Mar 11
1st cycle (ICSI)....Mar 04 -ve.
2nd cycle (ICSI)....Aug 04 -ve.
3rd cycle FET........May 05 -ve.
4th cycle (ICSI) ... Feb 06 -ve
5th cycle FET ..... Feb/Mar 11
Hi Heather, I was sorry to hear of your pains!
We are all hear so just log in if u need us!!
It helps to be round others who understand, as you'vr read this thread you'll so know others outside of our circle are dim, they know nothing about it!!
My freind is pregnant with her 2nd, child due in Aug. No problems falling Pg, pg as soon as they try.....Well, I was on the phone with her telling her that I am starting iui and telling her how it works etc.... she didnt have a clue. Didnt know what follicles were, never heard of follicles before thought that eggs were relaesed every day, didnt know about the ovulation, even didnt know how many day's per cycle was normal. I was totally shocked!!
But of course because she's on her 2nd Natural pregnancy she's a expert in getting Pg.
Arghhhhhhhhh!!!
We are all hear so just log in if u need us!!
It helps to be round others who understand, as you'vr read this thread you'll so know others outside of our circle are dim, they know nothing about it!!
My freind is pregnant with her 2nd, child due in Aug. No problems falling Pg, pg as soon as they try.....Well, I was on the phone with her telling her that I am starting iui and telling her how it works etc.... she didnt have a clue. Didnt know what follicles were, never heard of follicles before thought that eggs were relaesed every day, didnt know about the ovulation, even didnt know how many day's per cycle was normal. I was totally shocked!!
But of course because she's on her 2nd Natural pregnancy she's a expert in getting Pg.
Arghhhhhhhhh!!!
TTC 6yrs......Have jumped off the rollercoaster for now, too many BFN's and too much heartache, to keep going....Moving on to fulfil other dreams!!!
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I was reading this thread and then broke off to have webcam conversation with my sister (who lives in Singapore) and I was thinking how lucky i am as i haven't had too many stupid comments really compared to some people and then she goes and complains she hasnt had a lie-in for 5 years (she has a 5 and 3 yr old) . Just when I thought she was beginning to understand....although she did realise straight after she said it. Still it's the things from those closest to you that hurt most isn't it?
I have also had people saying the usual like "I can't understand why you haven't had kids, you'd make a good mother" and "isn't it time you had kids, you're leaving it a bit late aren't you?" Mmmmm thanks for reminding me, I had forgotten. Oops, knew there was something I meant to do, now what was it? oh yes, have a baby, how silly of me to forget!
Kat xx
I have also had people saying the usual like "I can't understand why you haven't had kids, you'd make a good mother" and "isn't it time you had kids, you're leaving it a bit late aren't you?" Mmmmm thanks for reminding me, I had forgotten. Oops, knew there was something I meant to do, now what was it? oh yes, have a baby, how silly of me to forget!
Kat xx
Me & DH both 41
ICSI #1 - abandoned
#2 - cancelled - DH accident
#3 - 1 transferred, bfn
#4 - 2 transferred, bfn
#5 - abandoned
#6 - no eggs at EC
#7 - DE in Barcelona - bfp but lost Dec'05
#8 - DE UK - bfn
#9 - FET Sept/Oct '07....
ICSI #1 - abandoned
#2 - cancelled - DH accident
#3 - 1 transferred, bfn
#4 - 2 transferred, bfn
#5 - abandoned
#6 - no eggs at EC
#7 - DE in Barcelona - bfp but lost Dec'05
#8 - DE UK - bfn
#9 - FET Sept/Oct '07....
HelLo Heather!
It's so awful when you have to put your life in the hands of people who don't understand the pain. Unfortunatly that's not uncommon. When we were having our biopsy done, the waiting room was full of couples, some of them who had been to a public hospital and mistreated by some doctors.
While we were waiting for the results though, dh convinced me to have an appointment because i was really down so i did. When i started telling the docotor about our problem i bursted into tears and he seemed to be doubting everything i was saying, like i was making all that up!!! Felt like punching him in the nose!!!!
And i still get those remarks KAt's mentioned... not from family, decided to tell my cousin cause i knew she would spread the word around. Everybody knowa now and the've been very good about it.
Guess i'ts just one of those things...
It's so awful when you have to put your life in the hands of people who don't understand the pain. Unfortunatly that's not uncommon. When we were having our biopsy done, the waiting room was full of couples, some of them who had been to a public hospital and mistreated by some doctors.
While we were waiting for the results though, dh convinced me to have an appointment because i was really down so i did. When i started telling the docotor about our problem i bursted into tears and he seemed to be doubting everything i was saying, like i was making all that up!!! Felt like punching him in the nose!!!!
And i still get those remarks KAt's mentioned... not from family, decided to tell my cousin cause i knew she would spread the word around. Everybody knowa now and the've been very good about it.
Guess i'ts just one of those things...
TTC 2y Me 31 Dh 34 NO SPERM - DI
The one thing I hate is, at least you are still young. Oh well excuse me I didnt realise that because im 27 it means it is going to make me less upset. I understand what they are trying to say but it doesnt mean we arent going to get upset or worry.
My Doctor even said to me once have you thought about the positives of not having children???? Well actually no because we want a family and we arent just going to decide oh well didnt want all that crying nappy changing etc any way. Does he not think these are things we talked about way back when we decided to try.
Kerry
My Doctor even said to me once have you thought about the positives of not having children???? Well actually no because we want a family and we arent just going to decide oh well didnt want all that crying nappy changing etc any way. Does he not think these are things we talked about way back when we decided to try.
Kerry
TTC 5yrs
ICSI april 05 neg
ICSI August ++++++++++++++
ICSI april 05 neg
ICSI August ++++++++++++++
Hi Heather and everyone,
I was so sorry to hear your story! What I HATE is being another statistic
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I know all about Dr's too, I am 31 and they are always telling me I am still very young.... plenty time
My worst experience I had with a clinic was shortly after the B had given me OHS which as you all know damaged my kidneys. I was told by my Dr's that I couldn't carry a child after that, so we got a surrogate and went back to the B clinic (our embies were there). We had to do councelling and I think the clinic was expecting us to sue them. The counceller came out and in the middle of the waiting room, in front of about 10 people shouted at me. He told me my attitude was unacceptable and I should know the proticle of things. He then went on to call me 'Miss Leicester' in a very sarcky way (I don't even live in Leicester, I live in Nottingham). I was very bitter with the clinic for what they did and after that, I was demented. I cried for weeks and begged DH to consider sueing them.... but DH is in the medical proffession and said being a Prof. we would never get anywhere I know we wouldn't, but I just can't believe a clinic can get away with what they did 
At least my kidney's have recovered, but a pg will still be quite risky because of what happened. I can't help wonder if that is why the Dr's are dragging their feet
Heather, I must say, this board has helped me beyond belief.
Take care
Tessa
I was so sorry to hear your story! What I HATE is being another statistic
. I know all about Dr's too, I am 31 and they are always telling me I am still very young.... plenty time
My worst experience I had with a clinic was shortly after the B had given me OHS which as you all know damaged my kidneys. I was told by my Dr's that I couldn't carry a child after that, so we got a surrogate and went back to the B clinic (our embies were there). We had to do councelling and I think the clinic was expecting us to sue them. The counceller came out and in the middle of the waiting room, in front of about 10 people shouted at me. He told me my attitude was unacceptable and I should know the proticle of things. He then went on to call me 'Miss Leicester' in a very sarcky way (I don't even live in Leicester, I live in Nottingham). I was very bitter with the clinic for what they did and after that, I was demented. I cried for weeks and begged DH to consider sueing them.... but DH is in the medical proffession and said being a Prof. we would never get anywhere
I know we wouldn't, but I just can't believe a clinic can get away with what they did At least my kidney's have recovered, but a pg will still be quite risky because of what happened. I can't help wonder if that is why the Dr's are dragging their feet
Heather, I must say, this board has helped me beyond belief.
Take care
Tessa
TTC 4.5 years
1st IVF (ICSI): OHSS (2005)
3 FET -neg
Treatment put on hold until August.
1st IVF (ICSI): OHSS (2005)
3 FET -neg
Treatment put on hold until August.
At least I can talk about it now 