To all who responded to my post I really do appreciate the advice. I never really thought of donor eggs. Hmmm. I'll see how my wife feels about that. Heck, why not? I just don't want to be an old man someday regretting not having children. Things can be SO unfair sometimes.

Hello all,

I've been on here a few times and got some great feed back, but I feel it's time to make another post. Here we are about 4 years since my wife and I tried to conceive and still nada. We did the fertility treatments and everything, but nothing. She has come to accept this, but I'm still ...

Nancydrew,

Your situation sounds almost exactly like ours: we tried for a few years, she has endrimosis, the whole story. My wife has come to accept that we won't have children naturally, but I'm still having a hard time with it. I even sought counceling from one of my pastors and that seemed to ...

You are not alone! I think the worst part is not having people around you to talk to that truelly understand. That is what makes this board so helpful. Me and my DH have been trying for almost 4 years as well and also have unexplained infertility. We did a few cylces of medications with IUI and ...

When my wife and I were going through the fertility treatments, they analyized by sperm count and told me, "You've got a really good sperm count." To me, that means nothing, because I still can't get my wife pregnant. I feel like a corvette which has no wheels, so what's the point? If my sperm doesn ...

Thanks for the kind words and they have gotten me to think. I may very well go into counseling for this. I love my wife dearly, but am aggravated by this situation. Is it worth breaking up my marriage just so we get a child? I always pictured having children. Now that vision has been shattered. I ...

Hello,

My wife has the problem in conceiving. Therefore, I've been thinking it might be a good idea for me to donate my sperm to a bank. Does anyone think this is a good idea? The doctor said I was fine and I hate to let my sperm go to waste.

Thanks!

Hello,

I know that ever since my wife and I have failed--yes failed--to have children my view on pregnancy has become very skewed. I hate seeing anyone pregnant now. I feel like such a idiot (I have a stronger word I'd like to use, believe me) for not being able to get my wife pregnant. It's her ...

I feel right now my life won't be complete unless I become a father. I'm 42 and still nada. Embarrassing. Having my own child is way different than someone else's. Life is SO unfair sometimes. We got dealt a lousy, crummy deal.



The biggest fights my DH and I had were over trying to have a family ...

Yes, this all does comfort me. We're trying to deal with this right now. We love each other dearly and are trying to hang in there. A friend of mine recently told me that when he and his wife got married the pastor told them, "family is nice, but the core of your relationship is the two of you ...

Ever since we found out we have unexplained infertility our marriage has been hit hard: arguments, etc. Is anyone else going through marital struggles because of infertility?

Hello,

My wife and I are currently experiencing unexplained infertility. Really sux. Everyone else is pregnant BUT us! I don't know what to do and have even had extreme thoughts about our marriage. Our marriage has suffered because of it. You are definitely NOT alone! I'm just mad at the whole ...

** "You're not getting pregant because you're too tense!"
** "You just need to adopt! There are so many children waiting to be adopted!" (From me - Ha! WHERE?!?)
** "My aunt finally had a baby when she was 82. Just be patient!"
** "Why can't you work all the holidays/overtime shifts/crappy shifts ...

:cry: ..we're still not getting pregnant, and I'm getting angrier every day. Seeing other women in our church who are pregnant doesn't help either. One girl had a daughter recently and today so many gathered around and congratulated her. I felt like my heart was being ripped out.

I still feel like ...

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I appreciate all the support, but point being is that we simply can't conceive. I am getting more angry about it all the time, whereas I think she's accepted it. I can't tell her my feelings because whenever I try to she simply tells me, "you just need to accept it." That doesn't solve the ...